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Overcoming Physical & Emotional Challenges | Coleman Ruiz

Episode 171 Apr 8, 2024 3h 13m 20 insights
In this episode, my guest is Coleman Ruiz, a former Tier One U.S. Navy SEAL joint task force commander. He served in Afghanistan and Iraq and as a BUD/S training officer. He shares his journey from childhood through the Naval Academy to elite Navy SEAL special operations. He shares the physical and emotional challenges he has overcome and discusses his struggle with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). He also talks about the key role of mentors, family and friends in building resilience. Coleman gives us a raw, humble account of hitting rock bottom. He tells of the intense pain, fear, depression and suicidality in his journey of redemption. Coleman’s story is a real-life hero’s journey. He tells it with extraordinary vulnerability and humility. He explains the challenges and sudden tragedies that helped to ground, shape and renew him. His story will inspire listeners of all ages and backgrounds. Note: This conversation includes profanity and topics that are not suitable for all audiences and ages. For show notes, including additional resources, please visit hubermanlab.com. Use Ask Huberman Lab, our new AI-powered platform, for a summary, clips, and insights from this episode.
Actionable Insights

1. Engage with Hero’s Journey

Utilize Joseph Campbell’s ‘The Hero with a Thousand Faces’ framework to understand and navigate transitions from extraordinary experiences back to ordinary life, ensuring one processes the ‘refusal of the return’ stage rather than skipping it, which can lead to feeling trapped.

2. Seek Professional Help for Depression

When experiencing severe depression or emotional pain, seek help from trusted individuals and professional therapists. Recognize that it’s not a sign of weakness and requires immense effort to overcome, often needing external support and a step-by-step approach.

3. Prioritize Talk Therapy for Healing

Engage in consistent, full-time (e.g., once a week) talk therapy with a skilled therapist, especially when facing deep-seated emotional challenges, even if there’s an initial resistance to seeking help.

4. Outsource Decisions During Crisis

During periods of severe mental distress or impaired judgment (‘foggy goggles’), outsource critical decisions and temporarily allow trusted individuals to ‘hold’ your identity and beliefs, as your own judgment may be impaired.

5. Open Up to Trusted Friends

Overcome the fear of judgment and open up to trusted friends and community members about your struggles; people often respond with support and empathy, not judgment.

6. Address ‘Low-Grade Pain’

When experiencing persistent ’low-grade pain’ or a sense of unsatisfactoriness, uncertainty, or unease, communicate these feelings to a trusted individual rather than trying to fix it alone or intellectualize your way around it.

7. Cultivate Range in Manhood

Cultivate a broad ‘range’ of behaviors and mindsets, embracing both protective instincts when necessary, but also developing kindness, calmness, and gentleness, recognizing that a complete person integrates various traits beyond traditional aggressive archetypes.

8. Practice Surrender and Listening

Practice surrendering to life’s uncontrollable realities and actively listen, rather than resisting or attacking every problem, as this can lead to less painful and more effective navigation of challenges.

9. Channel Wild Energy

Channel aggressive or ‘wild’ energy into structured physical activities or combat sports, which can improve discipline, academic performance, and reduce unproductive conflict.

10. Adopt a Growth Mindset

Believe that with enough hard work and effort, you can achieve desired skill levels and overcome challenges, fostering continuous improvement and resilience.

11. Develop Healthy Skepticism

Develop a healthy skepticism towards established rules and norms, especially in chaotic or unpredictable environments, to foster adaptability and independent problem-solving.

12. Stabilize Before Plant Medicines

If considering plant medicines for psychological healing, first stabilize your situation with slow, deliberate, and professional therapeutic guidance to contextualize experiences and provide post-experience integration support. Avoid intense psychedelics as a ’nuclear option’ without prior preparation.

13. Consider Short-Term Pharmacology

If recommended by a physician, consider short-term, low-dose pharmacological assistance (e.g., Wellbutrin) to create ‘space’ or distance from overwhelming emotional pain, facilitating other therapeutic processes.

14. Eliminate Alcohol During Distress

Consider eliminating alcohol, especially during periods of emotional distress or depression, as it can significantly improve sleep and physical fitness, contributing to overall well-being.

15. Engage in Regular Physical Activity

Engage in regular physical activity (e.g., 5 days/week training, 2 days/week sauna) to maintain mental clarity and emotional well-being, especially when feeling overwhelmed or stressed.

16. Implement 90-Minute Coffee Delay

Wait 90 minutes after waking up before consuming coffee to improve sustained energy levels throughout the day and avoid an afternoon crash.

17. Adopt Light Grazing Eating

Adopt a light grazing eating pattern, consuming small meals or snacks frequently throughout the day (e.g., 8 times/day), rather than large, infrequent meals, to support sustained energy and physical fitness.

18. Simplify Life, Cut Bullshit

Simplify your life by eliminating unnecessary commitments and ’extra bullshit,’ focusing on core responsibilities, close relationships, and purposeful activities rather than constantly seeking external achievements or piling up a busy schedule.

19. Ensure Adequate Hydration

Dissolve one packet of Element in 16-32 ounces of water first thing in the morning and during physical exercise to ensure proper hydration and electrolyte balance (sodium, magnesium, potassium) for optimal brain and body function.

20. Utilize Yoga Nidra/NSDR

Practice Yoga Nidra or Non-Sleep Deep Rest (NSDR) for 10-minute sessions to greatly restore levels of cognitive and physical energy.