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Navigating Conflict, Finding Purpose & Maintaining Drive | Dr. Lex Fridman

Episode 100 Nov 28, 2022 2h 38m 30 insights
My guest this episode is Lex Fridman, Ph.D., a Research Scientist at the Massachusetts Institute for Technology (MIT), an expert on artificial intelligence (AI) and robotics, and the host of the Lex Fridman Podcast. We discuss Lex’s recent trip to the heart of the Ukrainian-Russian War, geopolitics, perspectives on people living in war zones, the shared human experience, and how information is communicated and controlled. As an experienced podcaster and public educator, Dr. Fridman offers unique insights into the art of holding conversations that grow understanding, especially when they involve people with opposing viewpoints. We also discuss the peer-review process for scientific research publications and how social media and podcasts are evolving the way science and technology are communicated. We consider how to find and follow your life’s purpose, maintain ongoing motivation and implement support systems to build and sustain momentum. Our conversation also covers capitalism, masculinity, chess and cheating, Lex’s idea for an AI robotics start-up and a Q&A from audience questions solicited on social media. As one of the main inspirations for the Huberman Lab podcast, hosting Dr. Fridman for this special centennial episode was an honor and a pleasure! For the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com.
Actionable Insights

1. Dedicate Your 20s to Intense Work

In your 20s, find one passion and work harder at it than anything else, even if it feels like a grind and involves significant pain and sacrifice, as work-life balance is often best learned the hard way after such a journey. This advice is especially applicable to engineering and programming disciplines.

2. Remap Dopamine for Difficult Goals

To pursue challenging goals, consciously “close the hatch” on predictable, easy sources of dopamine and instead remap your dopamine reward system to derive satisfaction from the struggle, failures, and “limbic friction” of the difficult pursuit.

3. Identify Your Calling by ‘Magic’ Feeling

Recognize your true calling by a deep, almost ineffable “magic” feeling or intense fascination for a particular domain or pursuit, even if there’s no prior data to support your aptitude for it.

4. Overcome Busyness as an Excuse

Recognize that filling your day with busy work, even enjoyable and productive activities, can serve as an excuse to avoid pursuing the truly challenging and heart-driven goals that scare you.

5. Prioritize Love/Curiosity for Sustainable Drive

While external competition can provide a temporary push, pure love and curiosity for a pursuit offer a more sustainable and less “catabolic” source of motivation than adversarial relationships.

6. Prioritize Relationships

When faced with loss, people realize that what truly matters is the people in their life (friends, family), not material possessions.

7. Navigate Division with Humility & Empathy

In times of ideological lumping and division, strive to “walk in the middle” with empathy and humility, recognizing that most people are in the middle, trying to figure things out.

8. Approach Difficult Conversations with Empathy

When engaging in challenging conversations, especially with controversial figures, empathize, understand, and “steel man” their case, while also clearly articulating your own perspective, rather than talking down to them.

9. Process Criticism for Growth

When facing intense criticism or backlash, engage in soul-searching and introspection to learn from it, even if it leads to low points and despair, as this process can ultimately make you better.

10. Cultivate Positive Social Media Interactions

Combat viral negativity by adding “love” and good vibes, being silly, laughing at life’s absurdity, and maintaining a positive perspective. When criticized, learn if possible, send good vibes, and avoid escalating, as your actions shape your community.

11. Remember ‘Promises to Keep’ in Dark Moments

When facing dark or despairing moments, recall the poem’s message of “promises to keep” as a powerful reminder and motivation to choose to live and persevere through challenges.

12. Create an Internal Adversary for Motivation

If external motivators aren’t effective, construct an internal “amorphous blob” or “hater” that embodies your self-doubt and weaknesses, then channel anger towards this adversary to push through challenges.

13. Seek Unconditional Support & Intense Challenge

When pursuing ambitious goals, seek coaches or mentors who offer unconditional belief in your ability, followed by viciously intense and challenging guidance to push you towards that pursuit.

14. Ensure Proper Hydration & Electrolytes

Drink an electrolyte drink (like Element, 1 packet in 16-32 oz water) first thing in the morning and during physical exercise to support optimal brain and body function and prevent cognitive/physical performance diminishment.

15. Practice Yoga Nidra/NSDR

Use protocols like Yoga Nidra or Non-Sleep Deep Rest (NSDR), even for short 10-minute sessions, to greatly restore cognitive and physical energy.

16. Meet Foundational Nutritional Needs

Take a daily vitamin, mineral, and probiotic drink (like AG1, once or twice a day) to support gut health, immune system, and overall foundational nutritional needs.

17. Optimize Testosterone & Sperm Health

Use cold exposure (like ice baths) to potentially increase testosterone via vasoconstriction/vasodilation. Avoid hot saunas/baths if trying to conceive, or use an ice pack on the groin during heat exposure, as heat kills sperm for a 60-day cycle.

18. Consider Freezing Sperm (Males)

Males should consider freezing sperm while young, as it’s relatively inexpensive and there’s a small but significant association with autism as males age.

19. Embrace Calculated Risk (When Unencumbered)

If you don’t currently have family responsibilities, consider taking full advantage of this life stage to be more accepting of calculated risks, especially for pursuits your heart pulls you towards.

20. View Topics Through Multiple Lenses

To gain new perspective and ensure everyone feels included, view topics from a variety of lenses, zooming out of your own experience.

21. Navigate Information with Open Mind

Recognize that many narratives confidently claim truth, often leading to hatred; approach information calmly and with an open mind to understand what’s truly happening.

22. Prioritize Citizen Voices for Truth

In an information war, especially on social media, it’s hard to discern truth; keep an open mind, ignore the powerful, and listen to actual citizens.

23. Embrace Forced Solitude for Reflection

If circumstances impose an early curfew or forced alone time, embrace it as an opportunity to spend many hours alone, thinking, which can bring calmness and quietness.

24. Optimize Learning with 15% Failure Rate

Aim for an approximate 15% failure rate in your learning and growth endeavors, as getting trials right about 85% of the time appears optimal for neuroplasticity in various pursuits like language, math, and physical activities.

25. Build Strong Relationships During Hardship

Relationships formed or tested during difficult times are more likely to become strong and resilient, as opposed to those built only when everything is going well.

26. Start a Podcast (with structure)

If you’re considering starting a podcast, do it, but ensure it’s not just unstructured talking; provide structured information.

27. Use Twitter for Rapid Science Communication

For scientists, Twitter can be an effective medium for rapid science communication, sharing work and data quickly, with appropriate caveats about peer review status.

28. Prioritize Excellent Hiring for Company Success

As a founder, focus on hiring truly excellent people, as their quality will define your company’s trajectory and success, and you have a responsibility not to fail them.

29. Prepare for Backlash in Social Media Leadership

If leading a social media company, be prepared for an “avalanche of hate” and distrust, as any mistakes or transparency around difficult decisions (like censorship) can lead to significant public backlash.

30. Dress Formally as a Sign of Respect

Overdressing slightly, such as wearing a suit, can be a sign of respect for your audience or those you interact with, showing that you take them seriously.