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How to Best Guide Your Life Decisions & Path | Dr. Jordan Peterson

Episode 209 Dec 30, 2024 3h 51m 43 insights
In this episode, my guest is Dr. Jordan Peterson, Ph.D., psychologist, professor emeritus at the University of Toronto, best-selling author, and prominent online educator. We discuss the biology of human emotions and motivations, healthy versus destructive impulses, addictions, and generative drives. Topics include how brain states shape decision-making—for better or worse—and how religion and culture can guide us toward and through the best paths in life. We also explore the innate human drive to create "impact at a distance" and how it influences social interactions, educational pursuits, career choices, and relationships. Additional subjects include morality, social media, politics, the human appetite for drama, and the importance of embracing responsibility as a form of adventure to avoid wasting time. Listeners will gain practical knowledge from psychology, neuroscience, philosophy, and religion. Read the full show notes at hubermanlab.com.
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Adventure and Responsibility

Adopt the combined framework of the ‘call to adventure’ and ‘responsibility’ to guide your progress in life towards achieving your best possible outcomes.

2. Define Your Aim, Reveal Your Path

Firmly establish a clear, upward aim, as this clarity will cause the necessary pathway forward to manifest itself, guiding your actions and perceptions.

3. Integrate Drives for Sophisticated Socialization

Rather than merely inhibiting ‘impulses,’ work to integrate lower-order motivational states into a sustainable voluntary structure, subordinating them to higher-order goals for greater success and social sustainability.

4. Adventure in Voluntary Responsibility

Understand that true adventure and its inherent rewards are found in the voluntary adoption of responsibility, rather than in the avoidance of duty or the pursuit of mere indulgence.

5. Listen to Conscience and Calling

Pay attention to what genuinely interests you (calling) and what bothers you (conscience), as these internal signals are manifestations of your destiny and provide guidance for your path forward.

6. Sacrifice for Personal Transformation

Understand that personal transformation and becoming more than you currently are necessitates making sacrifices, letting go of what you were, and enduring the necessary costs.

7. Optimize Long-Term with Present Focus

Strive to optimize your long-term vision while simultaneously maximizing your focus on the present moment, allowing each step forward to contribute maximally to both immediate impact and intergenerational productivity.

8. Pursue Ultimate Goals for Reward

Orient your actions towards an ultimate, highly valuable goal, as this will increase the dopamine reward derived from each proximal step, making the pursuit more intrinsically motivating.

9. Fix Small, Visible Problems

Begin by identifying and fixing small, tangible problems in your immediate environment, even if they seem trivial, as this process is exponential and will build competence and reveal next steps.

10. Embrace Fear for Growth

Acknowledge and embrace the fear and anxiety that arise when venturing into new or challenging endeavors, as this discomfort indicates areas of potential growth and evolution.

11. Accept Being a Fool

Voluntarily accept the role of a ‘fool’ when starting something new, understanding that ignorance is the price of entry for improvement and growth.

12. Avoid Effortless Dopamine Spikes

Be wary of large, rapid dopamine inflections that are not preceded by significant effort, as these (e.g., from drugs, pornography, processed foods) are dangerous and run counter to evolutionary wiring.

13. Avoid Immature Gratification

Recognize that prioritizing immediate self-gratification without considering others or the future is an unsophisticated, immature strategy akin to psychopathy, which leads to alienation and self-betrayal.

14. Use Stories for Self-Guidance

Utilize various stories, such as biblical narratives, to gain self-understanding and effectively direct your actions towards positive and generative outcomes.

15. Guide Decisions with Diverse Knowledge

Employ insights from story, philosophy, psychology, and neuroscience to better comprehend and direct your decision-making process.

16. Religious Transformation for Addiction

For addiction recovery, consider religious transformation, which involves generating a hypothesis about your ideal self, establishing a relationship with that ideal, and inviting it into your life to restructure incentives.

17. Beware of Super Stimuli

Recognize that pornography acts as a ‘super stimulus’ that unnaturally exceeds natural stimuli, making it highly addictive and capable of hijacking the brain’s reward systems, especially for visually-oriented individuals.

18. Avoid Pornography for Real Relationships

Recognize that pornography can create unrealistic expectations and train the brain for voyeurism, making it difficult to establish and maintain a fulfilling sexual relationship with an actual partner.

19. Learn from Social Rejection

View social rejection as a valuable corrective mechanism, providing feedback on areas for personal improvement rather than something to be avoided or replaced by artificial gratification.

20. Pursue Adventure for Abundant Life

By hearkening to the call of adventure, your life will become a blessing to yourself, you will gain just renown, maximize your probability of establishing lasting value, and bring abundance to your community.

21. Encourage Children’s Adventure

As a parent, encourage your children, especially sons, to push themselves beyond their limits in an adventurous manner, as this fosters their growth and embodies the spirit of the call to adventure.

22. Prepare by Heeding Wisdom

Pay attention to the internal ‘voice’ that calls the wise to prepare in anticipation of future troubles, as this foresight is a manifestation of wisdom and a key to navigating uncertainty.

23. Community Requires Sacrifice

Recognize that responsible sacrifice is fundamental to the functioning and integrity of any community, as contributing to the collective good necessitates giving up individual desires for the future and the group.

24. Prioritize Truth in Science

As a scientist, prioritize the discovery of being wrong over the demonstration of being right, holding the truth higher than personal career advancement or self-valuation.

25. Embrace Truth as Adventure

Commit to following the path of truth, which is an adventure requiring you to let go of predictable outcomes and embrace the unknown, leading to potentially more valuable discoveries.

26. Establish Morning Ritual of Order

Start your day with a small, consistent act of ordering your physical space (e.g., making your bed, organizing a small area) to establish linear operations and bring a sense of relief and clarity.

27. Heed Conscience as Divine Guide

Take your conscience seriously as the ‘still small voice’ that guides you, understanding it as a profound internal compass that reveals what you need to set right and what path to take.

28. Use Prayer for Best Self

Engage in prayer as a distinct practice to allow external guidance to come through you, bringing out your best qualities and capabilities.

29. Pray for Clarity and Focus

Before important tasks, pray for clarity of mind, sustained focus, and the ability to let go of control, allowing for optimal learning and transmission of knowledge.

30. Listen During Prayer

Practice active listening during prayer by stilling yourself and inviting in messages or insights that might not be heard amidst daily distractions.

31. Frame Thought as Secular Prayer

Consider your thoughts as a form of secularized prayer, where posing questions and setting an aim enhances the probability of creative ideas and revelations emerging.

32. Cultivate Upward-Striving Attention

Worship attention as the ‘all-seeing, upward-striving eye,’ using focused attention as an antidote to pathological states and a means to seek and find answers.

33. Recognize Religious Truth Hierarchy

Understand that religious apprehension and truth can be arranged in a hierarchy of quality and depth, similar to literary works, allowing for a more nuanced understanding of spiritual traditions.

34. Foster Play to Counter Tyranny

Recognize that play is the antithesis of tyranny, and its emergence signifies an optimally structured environment, whether in personal relationships or broader society.

35. Cultivate Humor in Discourse

Incorporate a sense of humor, even a rough or comic touch, into discourse, as it is a characteristic often absent in tyrannical figures and can facilitate more genuine engagement.

36. Ask Genuine Questions, Listen

Cultivate genuine curiosity by asking real questions and actively listening, rather than believing you already know everything, which fosters understanding and connection.

37. Support Effective Political Opposition

Recognize the importance of a strong, credible political opposition to serve as a necessary corrective force, preventing excesses and ensuring balance in governance.

38. Follow Genuine Curiosity

Allow genuine curiosity to drive you to explore new technologies or domains, even if they seem trivial initially, as this adventurous spirit can lead to unexpected and world-altering opportunities.

39. Prioritize Nutrient-Dense Foods

To achieve proper satiation and avoid overeating, prioritize whole, nutrient-dense foods, as the gut’s neurons signal actual nutrient content to the brain, unlike processed foods that only activate taste systems.

40. Use CGM to Optimize Diet

Utilize a continuous glucose monitor (CGM) to gain real-time feedback on how different foods affect your blood glucose, informing food choices, eating times, and meal timing relative to workouts and sleep for stable blood sugar.

41. Bridge Meals with Protein Bars

Consume a high-protein bar (e.g., David bar with 28g protein, 150 calories) in the early to mid-afternoon to bridge the gap between lunch and dinner and meet daily protein goals without excess calories.

42. Wear Red Lens Glasses at Night

Wear red lens glasses after dark to filter out short-wavelength light from screens and LEDs, which helps calm the brain and improves the transition to sleep by preventing melatonin suppression.

43. Test Blood Levels with Function Health

Utilize comprehensive lab testing services like Function Health to detect unexpected health issues (e.g., high mercury levels) and receive medical doctor-informed insights on how to address them through diet and supplementation.