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Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying: Life Lessons Everybody Learns Too Late with Bronnie Ware (Re-release) #610

Jan 11, 2026 1h 46m 27 insights
What do you think you might be saying on your deathbed? Will you be looking back at your life with a sense of joy and completeness, or, do you think that perhaps you might be consumed with regret? As this week’s guest shares, “It’s easy to assume that you will live with great health to a ripe old age, then die peacefully in your sleep wearing your favourite pyjamas but it doesn’t work out that way for most people…” Bronnie Ware is an internationally acclaimed speaker and author of the bestselling memoir, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. Published more than 10 years ago, it’s been translated into 32 languages and continues to attract new audiences. The book is about her eight years as an end-of-life carer, the close relationships she formed, and lessons she learned from those dying people, which changed her life forever. In this conversation, we discuss some of the various regrets of the dying and what they can teach us so that we can live better lives, right now. We talk about the concept of choice. Everything we do, or don’t do, has a price – be it time or money. Our culture incentivises what we can measure – salaries, possessions, status, social media ‘likes’ and comments. But Bronnie urges us to realise the sacredness and value of our time. Is something a choice worth making if it means you have to sacrifice time with your loved ones? Is it worth pushing extra hard for the promotion that may bring you more money but also more stress and more time away from home? These are decisions that I think we all need to wrestle with from time to time if we are truly going to be living a contented and intentional life. We also talk about the real meaning of regret, what it means to be courageous, and how self-compassion can help us see our mistakes as a natural part of life and growth. Importantly, Bronnie also defines the qualities and habits she observed in those patients who reached the end of life with no regrets – what can we learn from these people? Death can be a topic that many people shy away from discussing but Bronnie is a wonderful soul who is able to talk about death in a relatable, powerful and authentic way. Appreciating we are going to die is the first step to getting more out of life. This really was a thought-provoking and intimate conversation. I hope you enjoy listening.   Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com. Thanks to our
Actionable Insights

1. Live True to Yourself

Prioritize living a life that aligns with your authentic self, rather than conforming to the expectations of others, as this is the most common regret of the dying and an umbrella for avoiding other regrets.

2. Acknowledge Your Mortality

Appreciate that you are going to die to truly live life more fully and get the most out of every day.

3. Cultivate Self-Compassion

Approach past mistakes with compassion, recognizing you did your best with the knowledge you had, which eliminates the need for regret and harsh self-judgment.

4. Foster Key Life Qualities

Cultivate strong family relationships, develop a sense of humor about life’s challenges, and foster a belief in something greater than oneself (spiritual or religious faith, or awe in nature) to live a regret-free life.

5. Schedule “Space as Medicine”

Regularly schedule unplanned time with no agenda, allowing yourself to simply be, which can significantly improve work efficiency and clarity.

6. Evaluate Every Choice’s Price

Consciously evaluate the price (financial, time, emotional) of every choice you make or don’t make, and regularly ask yourself if that price is worth paying.

7. Avoid Work as Sole Identity

Do not allow your work to become your entire identity and life; ensure you dedicate time to family, personal dreams, and other fulfilling aspects of life.

8. Express Your True Feelings

Find the courage to express your feelings, rather than suppressing them, to avoid a common regret of the dying.

9. Stay Connected with Friends

Prioritize staying in touch with your friends and nurturing those relationships, as losing touch is a common regret.

10. Allow Yourself Happiness

Give yourself permission to be happier and break through any resistance that prevents you from experiencing joy in your life.

11. Develop Re-evaluation Skill

Cultivate the important skill of constant re-evaluation of your choices and behaviors, as priorities and circumstances change over time.

12. Act Despite Fear (Courage)

Practice courage by acting despite feeling scared, as this force helps dismantle internal barriers that stop you from pursuing your goals and dreams.

13. Create for Joy, Not Outcome

Engage in creative endeavors for the sheer joy of creation, rather than solely for monetary outcomes or external validation, allowing for diverse projects.

14. Limit Others’ Opinions’ Influence

Consciously limit the validity and influence of other people’s opinions on your life, remembering that you are the ultimate judge of your own choices.

15. Take Social Media Breaks

Take intentional breaks from social media and the ‘busyness of the tech world’ when it feels out of alignment with how you want to live.

16. Reconsider Unhealthy Jobs

If your job demands unhealthy hours and threatens your well-being, consider that you might be in the wrong job and seek alternative employment that allows for more personal space.

17. Allow Gaps Between Projects

After completing a significant project, allow for a period of rest or a gap before immediately starting the next one, trusting that things will be okay.

18. Love Cognitively Impaired Loved Ones

Continue to show love and communicate with family members experiencing cognitive decline, as they may still experience moments of clarity or feel your love, even if they cannot articulate it.

19. Embrace Life’s Natural Cycle

Embrace the natural five-stage process of life (creation, birth, growth, decay, death) to foster acceptance of changes and loss.

20. Cultivate Daily Gratitude

Actively find gratitude in whatever is happening in your life right now, as this practice is a fundamental step towards living a regret-free life.

21. Honor Your Personal Limits

Learn to honor your personal limits, such as ensuring good sleep and not overloading your days, to show up well without using them as an excuse for laziness.

22. Start Now, Don’t Delay

Begin pursuing your goals and dreams now, rather than waiting for a ‘perfect time,’ as there is never a better moment than the present.

23. Focus on Impact, Not Ego

When pursuing endeavors, shift your focus from ego-driven external validation to the actual impact you wish to make.

24. Weigh Cost of Conflict

When addressing issues or disputes, weigh the cost (time, energy) of pursuing action against what you would have to give up.

25. Make Friends with Unknown

Cultivate a mindset of embracing and making peace with the unknown aspects and uncertainties of life.

26. Seek Exposure to Death

Seek direct exposure to death (e.g., spending time with dying people) to gain perspective on what is truly important in life and let go of ’nonsense’ and ’empty achieving’.

27. Try Meditation Practice

Consider trying meditation to cultivate peace, calm, and purpose in your life.