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The Hidden Health Crisis: How It Affects All Of Us And What We Can Do About It with US Surgeon General Dr Vivek Murthy #462

Jun 18, 2024 1h 36m 15 insights
Have you ever felt lonely, even when surrounded by people? Do you struggle to forge meaningful connections in today's fast-paced, technology-driven world? If so, you're not alone. Loneliness is on the rise in many countries around the world and more people than ever before are feeling alone and isolated. In today’s episode of my Feel Better Live More podcast, I'm joined for the second time by Vice Admiral Vivek H. Murthy - the 21st Surgeon General of the United States. He received his bachelor’s degree from Harvard, his medical degree from the Yale School of Medicine, and his Masters in Business Administration from the Yale School of Management. In his role, Dr Murthy helps to advance the health and wellbeing of all Americans and has worked to address several critical public health issues. In our conversation, we discuss the growing epidemic of loneliness and its impact on our health. Vivek shares profound insights on the far-reaching consequences of loneliness, which extend beyond mental health to include physical health problems, including an increased risk of stroke, dementia, heart disease, and premature death.   We delve into the root causes of the loneliness epidemic, exploring how fundamental shifts in technology and culture have altered the way we connect with others. Vivek emphasises the importance of taking social risks, building communication skills, taking regular social media breaks, the life changing benefits of volunteering, and he talks about the idea that simply dedicating just 10-15 minutes per day, to work out our social muscle will very quickly start to deepen our connections with the world around us. This thought-provoking conversation is for anyone looking to foster authentic connections in an increasingly disconnected world and deepen the relationships that matter most. Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com. Buy tickets for my stage tour https://drchatterjee.com/tour Thanks to our
Actionable Insights

1. Assess Your Social Health

Pause and ask yourself if you have people who know you for who you are, with whom you can be authentic, and who would show up in a crisis. If the answer to any is ‘I’m not sure,’ it indicates an area needing more attention to build social well-being.

2. Dedicate Daily Connection Time

Commit 10-15 minutes each day to reach out to someone you care about (ideally outside your immediate household) just to check on them. This systematic effort will make you feel more connected over time.

3. Practice Full Presence

Maximize the quality of your social interactions by giving people your full, undivided attention and putting away technology during conversations or meals. This makes the time you spend with others truly count.

4. Engage in Acts of Service

Regularly find one small way to help someone each day, whether through formal volunteering or simple acts of kindness like a kind word or greeting. This fosters connection, improves your health, and reminds you of your valuable contributions.

5. Take Social Risks

Actively seek opportunities to initiate conversations, express interest, or ask someone to spend time with you. This builds your ‘social muscle,’ leading to more fulfilling relationships despite initial discomfort.

6. Understand Your Coping Mechanisms

Examine your own behavior to identify how you respond to stress or pain (e.g., turning to unhealthy habits like sugar consumption). This self-awareness is crucial for understanding the deeper ‘why’ behind your choices.

7. Develop Healthy Stress Responses

Proactively build a ’toolbox’ of positive ways to manage stress and pain, such as calling a friend, exercising, or consuming inspiring content. This helps you choose beneficial actions instead of unhealthy coping mechanisms.

8. Experiment with Social Media Breaks

Take intentional breaks from social media, starting with one to two weeks, and observe how you feel. Many report increased calmness, presence, improved self-esteem, and a deeper appreciation for real-life interactions.

9. Enlist Accountability for Breaks

If you decide to take a social media break, make a pact with a friend or partner to hold each other accountable. This support can help you resist the temptation to return to platforms during the initial discomfort.

10. Parents: Foster Social Skills Proactively

Recognize that the modern environment doesn’t naturally foster social skills; proactively encourage children to take social risks and practice in-person interactions, even if it’s uncomfortable. This builds essential communication abilities.

11. Parents: Create Structured Social Practice

For shy children, design safe, structured activities like giving them simple questions to ask strangers in a friendly public setting, while providing close parental support. This helps them gradually build comfort with interaction.

12. Parents: Collaborate on Social Media

Band together with other parents to discuss and collectively set boundaries around children’s social media use. This shared approach provides mutual support and makes it easier to navigate peer pressure.

13. Implement Workplace Connection Practices

Introduce structured activities in the workplace, such as a ‘Humans of OSG’ exercise where colleagues interview each other about their lives for 10 minutes. This fosters deeper understanding and connection among team members.

14. Revive Community Engagement

Actively participate in and support local community organizations like volunteer groups, sports leagues, or faith organizations. These spaces are crucial for gathering, fostering connection, and combating societal isolation.

15. Practice the ‘Heart Exercise’

Close your eyes, place a hand over your heart, and for 30 seconds, reflect on people who have loved and supported you throughout your life. This practice helps you feel peace, happiness, and remember your inherent worthiness of love.