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Talking Mental Health with Matt Haig #61

May 8, 2019 1h 10m 26 insights
Mental health problems are extremely common - it is estimated that 1 in 4 of us will experience a mental health problem at some point in our lives. Yet so many of us still view these illnesses as a weakness or a personal failure. On this week’s episode, I sit down with best-selling author and one of the most prominent voices in the mental health arena, Matt Haig to talk about all things related to mental health. We discuss how society’s understanding of mental health can be very limited and often very toxic and how talking about it and understanding the different textures that exist under its banner is essential. We explore the pressures put on us by modern society, how work place cultures affect our mental health and the need to teach our children about mental health. As someone who has suffered from depression and anxiety, Matt shares his own personal journey and explains how he finds optimism in dark places. Finally, Matt shares his top tips on improving the way that you feel. This is an open, honest and really important conversation – I hope you enjoy it! Show notes available at drchatterjee.com/61 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee/ Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee/ Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Actionable Insights

1. Believe in Personal Change

Even when feeling stuck or dealing with a chronic condition, believe in the possibility of change and understand that your relationship to your condition can shift and evolve over time.

2. Separate Feelings from Self

Understand that your feelings (e.g., feeling ugly, anxious, or lacking time/achievement) are not necessarily objective reality; recognize the separation between your temporary emotional state and your true self.

3. Seek Inner Happiness

Understand that long-term happiness and well-being are not fundamentally affected by external achievements or signifiers; instead, you need to find that contentment within yourself.

4. Practice Present Moment Gratitude

Counter the societal conditioning of constant future-thinking by actively practicing gratitude for what you have in the present moment, rather than always seeking to accumulate more.

5. Cultivate Optimism

Choose optimism as a more valid and useful perspective, as pessimism offers no constructive path forward, and time often disproves negative predictions.

6. Embrace Vulnerability: Strength

Recognize that admitting vulnerability, rather than trying to appear strong when weak, actually requires and demonstrates true strength.

7. Discuss Mental Health Openly

Openly discuss mental health problems and understand the different aspects under its banner, as not talking about it can worsen the situation.

8. Monitor & Manage Health

Recognize that health (mental or physical) is not a static endpoint, but something that requires continuous monitoring, management, and acute awareness.

9. Create Unplugged “Being” Spaces

Regularly create dedicated spaces and times (e.g., yoga, reading, running) where you can unplug from work, worries, and external demands, allowing yourself to simply ‘be’ and disconnect to reconnect.

10. Prioritize Sufficient Sleep

Prioritize getting sufficient sleep, as it is a crucial but often neglected component of overall health, impacting both physical and mental well-being.

11. Limit Bedtime Phone Use

To reduce addiction and establish a morning rhythm, switch off phone notifications and avoid having your phone by your bed, placing it elsewhere like the kitchen.

12. Engage in Regular Running

Engage in regular running to create space away from daily stressors, which can be empowering by providing a sense of control over physical symptoms similar to panic attacks, and offers endorphin benefits.

13. Practice Yoga

Practice yoga, even if initially for physical reasons, as it can have positive knock-on effects on mental health by providing dedicated self-time and promoting slower breathing.

14. Reframe Panic Attacks

When a panic attack is coming on, instead of running away, reframe it as a test; lie down, experience it, and observe how you handle it to create separation between yourself and the panic.

15. Learn to Cope with Stress

When facing stressful situations, actively seek to learn coping mechanisms rather than just enduring the stress, as repeated exposure without coping can reinforce negative responses like panic attacks.

16. Acknowledge Chronic Stress Impact

Understand that chronic stress is not invisible; it physically alters brain structures (e.g., dorsolateral prefrontal cortex), impairing self-control and rational decision-making, so acknowledge its tangible impact.

17. Value Small Acts of Courage

Understand that the toughest and most courageous actions can be seemingly small, everyday tasks when facing significant personal challenges like anxiety or agoraphobia.

18. Externalize Feelings via Talk

Engage in talk therapy not just for the advice received, but for the therapeutic benefit of externalizing and articulating your feelings.

19. Practice Social Media Compassion

When interacting on social media, always try to be compassionate and avoid assuming others are rested or grounded, as their posts might be a reflection of their current struggles.

20. Mindful Social Media Sharing

Be careful with what you say on social media, especially when sharing personal or subjective experiences, as others may misinterpret or be negatively affected.

21. Listen & Validate Others

When interacting with someone struggling, listen to them and let them know they are not alone, as this validation can make a significant difference.

22. Teach Emotional Intelligence

Prioritize teaching emotional intelligence and mindfulness in schools to equip children with tools to navigate a complex and potentially toxic world, fostering sanity and well-being.

23. Avoid Childhood Stress Overload

Challenge the notion that stress is always character-building and avoid piling excessive pressure on children, as it may not teach coping but rather lead to anxiety and breakdown.

24. Advocate Shorter Work Weeks

Consider advocating for or implementing shorter working weeks (e.g., four-day weeks) or shorter working days (e.g., six hours), as data suggests this can increase productivity and improve work-life balance.

25. Daily Nutritional Supplement

If getting all nutrition from food isn’t possible, consider taking a nutrient-dense whole food supplement each morning as an insurance policy to meet nutritional needs.

26. Write Shorter Books

To have a prolific writing career, consider writing shorter books, as this can increase output.