Add the High Five Habit to your morning routine by giving yourself a high five in the mirror each morning. This simple act retrains your brain’s neural pathways, convincing your subconscious that you are worthy of celebration and leading to an enormous breakthrough in how you see and relate to yourself within five days.
When you hesitate or feel stuck, count backwards “5-4-3-2-1” and then immediately take action. This rule interrupts negative thinking, breaks procrastination loops, and shifts your bias from thinking to action, giving you the confidence to try when full of doubt.
Recognize that merely thinking about what you need to do won’t change your life; only taking action will. Actively choose to move from a “bias towards thinking” to a “bias towards action” to overcome paralysis and achieve desired life improvements.
Set an intention for the person you want to become and then physically act as that person would. This “behavioral activation therapy” demonstrates to your brain that you care about yourself, changing your internal structure over time.
Understand that self-criticism and self-rejection are often inherited generational patterns. By practicing self-compassion and self-acceptance, you can break these cycles and model a healthier way of relating to oneself for your children and future generations.
Each morning, after brushing your teeth, pause and look at yourself in the mirror without speaking, then physically give the person in the mirror a high five. This action triggers a universal neuro association of encouragement and celebration, bypassing verbal self-talk and flipping an internal switch of vitality.
When facing setbacks or disappointment, adopt the mindset that “when you work hard, you’re going to be rewarded” and “this moment is preparing you for something better.” This belief helps you navigate challenges with resilience, trusting that something positive is coming.
When overwhelmed by enormous problems or dreams, begin by taking the smallest possible step. This “littlest thing” can initiate momentum, chip away at challenges, and “crack open something inside you and let some light back in.”
Acknowledge that emotional waves and nervous system responses occur before conscious thoughts, so you cannot control their initial appearance. Instead of resisting these feelings, choose what you tell yourself about the situation to regain control and prevent your mind from hijacking you.
Before emotionally venting to a loved one, pause and ask if they have the capacity to listen. This respectful approach prevents inadvertently burdening them or triggering their own insecurities, fostering healthier communication in important relationships.
In close relationships, especially when discussing work or potentially stressful topics, always ask if “now is a good time” before initiating the conversation. This simple act respects the other person’s current capacity and helps maintain boundaries.
When complimenting others, especially children, focus on their positive attributes like loyalty, intelligence, or hard work, rather than solely their physical appearance. This helps them develop a stronger sense of self-worth based on character and actions, rather than external validation.
When you achieve positive changes in your life, give yourself the credit for doing the work, even if a tool or advice helped initiate it. Acknowledge your own effort in moving from thinking to doing, reinforcing self-empowerment.
After a significant effort, such as an interview, fully commit during the event, then immediately release attachment to the outcome. Shift your focus back to excelling at what you already do well, trusting that if it’s not meant to be, something better is coming.
When caught in a spiral of worry or negative hypothetical scenarios, consciously shift your thinking by asking, “What if it all works out?” This mantra helps reframe potential outcomes positively, reducing stress and opening your mind to beneficial possibilities.
When seeking to implement changes or habits, prioritize simple, easy-to-understand actions rather than complicated lists. Simple, empowering information is more likely to be adopted and tried, especially when facing overwhelming problems.
Grant yourself permission to experience happiness and actively choose to no longer accept feeling unwell, believing that you deserve to feel better. This internal awakening is the first step towards seeking and implementing tools for a more enjoyable life.