Focus on changing how you think about yourself by aligning your behavior with your values, rather than wasting time trying to change how others perceive you, as external validation is an uncontrollable and ultimately worthless pursuit.
Recognize that your mind can and needs to be trained, just like your body, to improve focus, attention, and happiness, by dedicating time to mental exercises.
Understand your true values by auditing how you spend your money and time, then critically evaluate if your current pursuits are genuinely yours or driven by external pressures. Regularly revisit this audit (monthly for an hour, annually for 3-5 days) to align your actions with your authentic desires.
Approach new ideas and perspectives with a tiny bit of curiosity and an open mind, as exposure to diverse thoughts can foster greater creativity, purpose, and meaning in your life.
Improve your self-understanding and communication by expanding your emotional vocabulary beyond basic terms, allowing you to accurately diagnose and articulate your feelings to yourself and others.
Become aware of emotional patterns and attachment styles adopted from your childhood, not to blame parents, but to develop the emotional skills necessary for healthier relationships and self-management.
Clearly communicate your expectations for joy and acceptable pain levels in relationships, and define key terms like ’love’ or ‘clean’ with your partner to prevent misunderstandings and foster deeper connection.
Refrain from building your happiness or identity on the perceived inferiority, gossip, or mistakes of others, as this creates an unstable and unsustainable foundation for your own well-being.
Actively challenge negative habits like comparing, complaining, and criticizing by tracking their frequency (e.g., using a jar and post-it notes) and engaging in a self-competition to reduce them, recognizing these are adopted behaviors, not your core identity.
Cultivate gratitude even in difficult situations by actively seeking meaning and lessons within them, understanding that challenges can still guide you in the right direction if you maintain a learning mindset.
Make gratitude a daily practice by specifically expressing thanks to a person, reflecting on a place, and acknowledging a project in your life, as this deepens your own sense of gratitude and strengthens relationships.
If you’re in a dissatisfying job you cannot leave, practice ‘job crafting’ by consciously asking where you can find meaning, what you can learn, or what the role is trying to teach you, to transform your experience of work.
When pursuing goals or creating content, prioritize generating genuine value and impact for others, as this focus naturally leads to desired outcomes like followers or success, aligning with purpose (passion + skills + compassion).
Consciously design your living spaces using the ’three S’s’ (Sights, Scents, Sounds) to positively influence your mood and energy. Choose inspiring sights, calming scents (e.g., lavender), and uplifting or relaxing sounds to transform each room’s atmosphere.