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How To Overcome Adversity with Tony Riddle #238

Feb 16, 2022 1h 20m 25 insights
This episode is a LIVE recording of a conversation I had with Tony Riddle who was eight days into an epic journey. He was running the length of Great Britain, completely barefoot, covering 30 miles a day for 30 days. His aim? To show what human beings are biologically capable of, as well as to raise environmental awareness and funds. Even though the conversation was recorded back in 2019, it has as much relevance today as it did back then.   You might remember Tony from episode 71, What Makes Us Human. He’s also known as the natural lifestylist and one of his aims is to help people move back towards a more natural lifestyle by inspiring them to make small changes that can make a big difference.   Unfortunately, when we meet up to record this episode, in front of a small live audience at the Wild and Wild café in Congleton, acute injury meant that Tony was two days into an enforced break from his run. So, in this conversation, we talk about how he coped with that setback.   We also talk about the incredible power of being vulnerable, the idea of progress, not perfection, and Tony’s philosophy that everything in life is a process. He shares some simple – and free – tools that can help all of us cope with adversity: human contact (hugs from your loved ones), breathwork, meditation, mobility and cold-water therapy.   I ask Tony to take us through a simple breathing exercise, in real time (so you can join in, too). And we chat about the physiology of stress and how and when breathwork can help us.   In keeping with the theme of his run, we finish our chat on the topic of sustainability – the equal importance of individual and system change to protect our environment.   Tony is a really inspiring man who challenges the modern norms in society that are not in keeping with our evolution and biology. I hope you enjoy this conversation. Thanks to our
Actionable Insights

1. Trust Life’s Process

Cultivate trust, respect, and patience for all of life’s experiences, understanding that everything is a process, whether good or bad. This mindset helps navigate challenges with greater acceptance and peace, and allows you to appreciate the good more fully.

2. Prioritize Progress, Not Perfection

Focus on making continuous progress in your goals and lifestyle changes, rather than striving for an unattainable perfection. The pursuit of perfection often hinders actual progress and can lead to giving up when challenges arise.

3. Reframe Adversity for Growth

Adopt the mindset that adverse experiences are ‘happening for you’ rather than ’to you.’ This perspective helps you learn valuable lessons from challenges and emerge as a stronger, better human.

4. Embrace Vulnerability & Emotions

Allow yourself to fully experience and express all emotions, including vulnerability, especially in front of loved ones like children. This models healthy emotional expression, fosters strength, and counteracts the suppression of feelings.

5. Practice Present Moment Awareness

Focus on living in the present moment, rather than dwelling on past achievements or future goals. This helps avoid getting overwhelmed by the scale of a challenge and allows you to appreciate the current experience.

6. Utilize Free Well-being Tools

When facing adversity or seeking well-being, leverage simple, free tools such as human contact (hugs from your tribe), breathwork, meditation, mobility exercises, and cold water therapy. These practices help downregulate the nervous system, process emotions, and shift your state.

7. Integrate Breathwork Daily

Consciously use breathwork throughout your day to regulate your physiological state, whether to ‘upregulate’ for alertness or ‘downregulate’ for relaxation and rest. This practice can profoundly control your biology and influence overall well-being.

8. Practice Diaphragmatic Nasal Breathing

Breathe primarily through your nose, engaging your diaphragm (belly breathing) to utilize the full potential of your lungs, rather than shallow chest breathing. Remember that noses are for breathing and mouths are for eating.

9. Use 3-4-5 Breath Before Meals

Practice the 3-4-5 breath (inhale for 3, hold for 4, exhale for 5) for about a minute before meals, ideally with family or friends. This shifts your body out of a stress state into ‘rest and digest,’ which can improve digestion and reduce adverse reactions to food.

10. Downregulate Before Entering Home

Before entering your home after work, take a moment to do breathwork to down-regulate and release accumulated stress or negative energy from your day. This prevents carrying work stress into your personal life and allows you to re-engage with family calmly and present.

11. Schedule Breath Breaks at Work

Set timers (e.g., every 25 minutes) during your workday to take short breath breaks, returning to your breath for a moment. This helps reinstate moments of reflection and rest that are often lost in modern, constantly-on work environments.

12. Practice Breathwork Before Sleep

Engage in down-regulating breathwork before going to sleep. This promotes a ‘rest and digest’ state, which is conducive to better sleep and overall recovery.

13. Focus on ‘Present Best’

When practicing breathwork or any personal challenge, aim for your ‘present best’ rather than striving for a fixed tempo or ‘personal best’ that might cause stress. Everyone’s respiratory system is unique and can change daily, so forcing a tempo can be counterproductive.

14. Use The Breathing App

Download and use ‘The Breathing App’ by Eddie Stern to guide your breathwork, experimenting with tempos like a 4-second inhale and 6-second exhale. A longer exhale helps to lower heart rate and blood pressure, promoting relaxation.

15. Limit Technology & Dopamine Pacifiers

Consciously reduce reliance on modern ‘pacifiers’ like mobile devices, gaming, excessive shopping, alcohol, or drugs, which provide high dopamine hits. Instead, cultivate natural ways (like human connection and movement) to foster true happiness and engagement.

16. Limit Children’s Technology Exposure

Be mindful and significantly limit your children’s exposure to technology and devices. This protects their developing brains from known negative impacts, following the example of tech industry leaders who prioritize device-free environments for their own kids.

17. Embrace Natural Movement

Incorporate biologically normal movements into your daily life, such as squatting while watching TV or for 30 minutes a day, and going barefoot indoors. This helps connect with your feet and the ground, aligning with a more natural lifestyle.

18. Prioritize Simple Joys & Connections

Value and prioritize simple, free activities like walks with family, meals with friends, and ensuring good sleep. These fundamental practices are crucial for overall well-being, helping to navigate adversity and mental challenges.

19. Cultivate Inner Sustainability

Recognize that true sustainability extends beyond environmental actions to include personal practices like breathwork and meditation. These help you sustain your own well-being and life amidst chaos, making you a more ‘sustainable human being.’

20. Adopt a Minimalist Lifestyle

Embrace minimalist living by removing attachment to excessive possessions and focusing on fundamental needs. This practice encompasses many sustainable and well-being principles, reducing materialism and promoting a more natural way of living.

21. Make Small Lifestyle Changes

Seek ways to align your physical, social, and spiritual needs with nature, especially in urban settings, by making small, biologically aligned changes to your habits. These small changes can make a big impact on your happiness and overall way of living.

22. Support Sustainable Choices & Businesses

Actively recycle, reuse, and upcycle, and consciously choose to support businesses and products (e.g., electric vehicles, sustainable fashion) that are committed to environmental change. Do this without striving for perfection or causing personal anxiety.

23. Join Environmental Advocacy Groups

Support and join environmental advocacy groups (like Surfers Against Sewage) that work to change legislation and make a systemic impact. This amplifies individual efforts and contributes to larger societal changes in sustainability.

24. Avoid Shaming Others

Refrain from publicly shaming or berating others on social media for not being as sustainable as you are. Such behavior is counterproductive and not ‘sustainable’ for fostering positive change within the community.

25. Make Informed Carbon-Impact Purchases

When possible, choose products with lower carbon impact, using tools like carbon analytics at the point of sale to guide your decisions. This allows you to individually contribute to sustainability by making environmentally conscious choices.