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How Our Childhood Shapes Every Aspect of Our Health with Dr. Gabor Maté #37

Nov 21, 2018 1h 26m 21 insights
“We live in a society that generates addiction in most of its members.”   This week, I talk to renowned addiction expert, physician and best-selling author, Dr. Gabor Maté. He calls for a compassionate approach toward addiction, whether in ourselves or in others. Dr Maté believes addiction is not a choice, neither is it all about drugs and illicit substances. Instead, he believes that addiction affects most of us – whether it be to alcohol, nicotine, sugar, work or exercise…the list is endless. According to Dr Maté, the source of addiction is not to be found in our genes but in our early childhood.   We also talk about how our emotional stress translates into physical chronic illnesses and how we now live in a culture that doesn’t meet our human needs. Indeed, the conditions necessary for healthy child development are increasingly under threat in today’s society. Loneliness and lack of meaningful connection are on the rise, as are the rates of autoimmune disease and addiction. We discuss how the way we live our modern lives is impacting us more than we realise.   It was a real honour to sit down and talk eye-to-eye with Gabor about his truly revolutionary work. This was a deep and powerful conversation and I hope it helps you in your lives. Show notes available at https://drchatterjee.com/37 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee/ Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee/ Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Actionable Insights

1. Become Agent of Your Healing

Actively seek out help and information, looking beyond conventional medicine if necessary, and become the primary agent in your own healing journey to find the right support and answers.

2. Cultivate Self-Awareness for Health

Become conscious of your unconscious patterns and emotional dynamics, as this awareness is crucial to liberating yourself from ingrained behaviors and positively impacting your physiology.

3. Heal Underlying Wounds, Not Style

Focus on making fundamental life changes and healing underlying childhood wounds, rather than just superficial lifestyle adjustments, because true behavioral changes will automatically follow from this deeper work.

4. Embrace Self-Compassion for Healing

Treat yourself with compassion and avoid self-blame for your choices, understanding that many behaviors, including addictive ones, are often protective mechanisms.

5. Prioritize Real-Life Friendships

Make time to see friends in real life, not just digitally, as genuine human connection is a necessity for health and well-being, not a luxury.

6. Schedule Social Connection

Actively schedule dates in your diary to meet friends in real life, even if it’s weeks away, to foster genuine connection and combat loneliness.

7. Reframe Addiction: Why the Pain?

Shift your understanding of addiction by asking “why the pain?” instead of “why the addiction?”, to uncover the deeper emotional distress behind addictive behaviors.

8. Explore Childhood Hurts

Look into your childhood experiences for sources of hurt, whether from negative events or unmet needs, as these are often the root cause of addictive behaviors and other life difficulties.

9. Interpret Physical Symptoms as Warnings

View physical symptoms, such as high blood pressure, as signals from your body indicating too much tension or stress in your life, prompting you to take action to address it.

10. Engage in Regular Therapy

Seek therapy regularly to process emotional baggage and understand deeper layers of your self, which can lead to significant behavioral changes and a greater sense of freedom.

11. Understand Personality as Adaptation

Recognize that much of what is considered your personality is actually a defensive structure developed to cope with pain, and stripping away these defenses can lead to a more balanced and happier life.

12. Explore Internal Family Systems

Consider engaging with Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy to understand and befriend different internal parts of yourself, addressing the underlying needs that drive behaviors with compassion.

13. Trust Innate Healing Capacity

Recognize and actively promote your body’s tremendous innate healing capacity, as this can facilitate recovery and help overcome illnesses beyond typical medical prognoses.

14. Self-Assess for Addiction

Apply the broader definition of addiction—any behavior providing temporary pleasure/relief, craved, with long-term negative consequences, and an inability to give it up—to your own behaviors to identify unrecognized patterns.

15. Read “The Stress Solution”

Read Dr. Chatterjee’s book, “The Stress Solution,” to identify sources of stress in your life and gain practical strategies to lower stress levels for a happier, calmer existence.

16. Read “The Four Pillar Plan”

Read Dr. Chatterjee’s book, “The Four Pillar Plan,” to learn simple and accessible strategies for making lifestyle changes that can transform your health.

17. Read Dr. Maté’s Books & Talks

Check out Dr. Gabor Maté’s books and YouTube talks to gain self-knowledge and a deeper understanding of addiction, trauma, and human behavior.

18. Access Free Energy Video Series

If you’re feeling tired, access Dr. Chatterjee’s free six-part video series on energy at drchastity.com/energy to learn how to boost your vitality.

19. Take Daily Greens Powder

Consider taking a super tasty greens powder each morning, such as Athletic Greens, as an insurance policy to help meet your nutritional needs.

20. Share Podcast Episode

Share this podcast episode with friends, family, or colleagues who you believe might benefit from its insights on addiction, trauma, and human connection.

21. Watch Video Conversation

For those who prefer visual content, watch the full video recording of this conversation on Dr. Chatterjee’s YouTube channel.