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BITESIZE | The Secret to Solving the Stress Cycle | Drs Emily and Amelia Nagoski #205

Sep 30, 2021 14m 24s 11 insights
Stress is a physiological cycle that has a beginning, a middle and an end. And by understanding how to complete the stress response cycle, you can get rid of the stress even if you can’t remove the stressor. Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and heart. Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests. Today’s clip is from episode 60 of the podcast with authors of the book ‘Burnout: The Secret to Solving the Stress Cycle’, Drs Emily and Amelia Nagoski. In this clip, they explain the importance of understanding the stress cycle, and the powerful and practical tools we can all use to minimise stress in our lives. Thanks to our sponsor http://www.athleticgreens.com/livemore Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/3oAKmxi. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com. Show notes and the full podcast are available at drchatterjee.com/60 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Mutual Care for Burnout

Understand that the cure for burnout is not merely individual self-care, but a collective effort where everyone cares for each other, creating a supportive system where needs are met and no one is left behind.

2. Separate Stressor from Stress

Recognize that the physiological stress response can be completed independently of resolving the external stressor (e.g., laundry, work problems), allowing you to manage the physical experience of stress even if the problem persists.

3. Complete Stress Cycle Physiologically

Actively engage in physiological actions like crying, laughing, physical activity, or affection to complete the body’s stress response cycle, even if the stressor remains unresolved, to prevent burnout.

4. Embrace Wellness as Action

Understand that wellness is not a static state of being but an active process of movement through the stress cycle, oscillating between rest and action to maintain balance.

5. Personalize Stress Relief Methods

Recognize that there is no single “script” for completing the stress response cycle; instead, choose methods that are accessible and personally effective for you in the context of your current life.

6. Engage in Physical Stress Release

Use physical activity, such as running, jumping, dancing, tightening muscles, or wrestling, to efficiently communicate to your body that you have escaped the stressor and are now safe, completing the stress response cycle.

7. Seek Affection for Safety

Engage in physical affection with someone who is your “emotional home” as a straightforward biological cue that signals safety to your body, helping to complete the stress response cycle.

8. Practice 20-Second Trust Hugs

Hug someone you love and trust for 20 seconds to physically connect, which lowers heart rate and blood pressure, signaling safety to your body and completing the stress response cycle.

9. Express Emotions Creatively

Utilize creative self-expression through music, writing, sculpture, or theater as a “cultural loophole” to safely externalize and process big feelings like frustration, rage, and fear, preventing them from causing harm inside your body.

10. Prioritize Sleep for Stress

Ensure you get enough continuous sleep, as it allows your body to fully process and complete the stress response cycle, repairing physical damage and integrating memories.

11. Embrace Need for Connection

Challenge the societal stigma around needing connection and support, recognizing that humans are a “hive species” and that needing others for touch, closeness, or emotional support is a natural and healthy part of well-being, not a weakness.