Recognize that true personal power comes from stopping the habit of giving your power away to others’ opinions, moods, or expectations.
Adopt the “Let Them” mindset by consciously allowing others to have their own thoughts, opinions, successes, disappointments, and expectations without feeling the need to control or be affected by them.
After saying “Let Them,” shift focus to “Let Me” by reminding yourself that you control your thoughts, actions (including inaction), and emotional processing, thereby taking responsibility for your life.
Redirect your energy from observing others to focusing on your own actions, time management, and responses, as these are within your direct control.
Recognize that the fear of failure is often not about the failure itself, but about the fear of other people’s opinions and being perceived as inferior or a failure by them.
When you feel jealousy or anger towards someone achieving what you desire, recognize it as a signal that your excuses are invalid and that the goal matters to you, prompting you to make a plan and take action.
Actively manage your emotions by practicing techniques like the 3-4-5 breath to settle yourself, preventing emotions from overwhelming you and leading to regrettable actions.
When bothered by external behaviors or situations you cannot control, say “Let Them” to yourself to establish a mental boundary, signaling that it’s not worth your time and energy.
When faced with daily stressors, consciously choose an active coping mechanism, such as leaving the situation, practicing a breathing technique (e.g., 3-4-5 breath), or closing your eyes, instead of passively reacting.
Consistently using simple tools like “Let Them” to insulate yourself from daily stressors protects your health by preventing the cumulative drain and negative impact of stress on your body.
Understand and accept that you can never control what other people think or their opinions of you, which helps in releasing the fear associated with their judgment.
Recognize that your true power resides internally, in your thoughts, actions, and how you process your emotions, not in external circumstances or people.
Understand responsibility as your “ability to respond” to life’s circumstances, recognizing that you are always in control of your reactions and responses.
Recognize that attempting to control uncontrollable external factors inevitably leads to personal stress and frustration.
Understand that paradoxically, by letting go of the need to control everything, you actually gain more effective control over your life and well-being.
Use the “Let Them” theory as a practical tool for detachment and radical acceptance in modern life, allowing you to live differently by releasing attachment to uncontrollable external factors.
Understand that exhaustion, lack of achievement, and overwhelm often stem from giving power to others’ thoughts, actions, moods, and expectations, rather than being the problem yourself.
If you’re not pursuing desired changes or goals, consider if the underlying reason is a fear of failure, which often prevents you from even starting.
Maintain the belief that you always have the power to act and change your situation, no matter the circumstances or excuses.
Understand that personal insecurity, struggle, or a state of lack prevents you from genuinely supporting others, emphasizing the need for internal work first.
Realize that others’ success does not diminish your potential or take away what is meant for you; only your own inaction can hinder your progress.
Instead of seeing others’ achievements as a loss or barrier, view them as evidence that your own goals are attainable, using their success as a guide and inspiration.
Stop wasting valuable time and energy on jealousy and insecurity fueled by watching others, and instead, redirect that energy daily towards working on your own aspirations.
Instead of viewing jealousy as a negative trait, interpret it as a valuable signal from your inner self, indicating something important you desire or a value you are neglecting.
Recognize jealousy as a powerful, albeit frustrating, emotion that can serve as a catalyst to awaken you to your true desires and motivate you to move towards your intended path.
When feeling jealous, first be honest with yourself about the emotion, then move to “Let Me” by understanding the precise source of jealousy and determining what actionable steps you can take for yourself.
While caring about others’ opinions is natural, ensure you prioritize your own decisions and how you live your life over the weight you give to their views, especially family.
Develop the skill of accepting that two seemingly conflicting things can be true simultaneously, such as caring about others’ opinions while prioritizing your own choices.
Begin practicing the “Let Them” theory by applying it to everyday stressors like slow queues or traffic, to protect yourself from unnecessary stress responses.
Intentionally schedule breaks from work, like a summer hiatus, to ensure quality, undistracted time with family, especially children, to foster well-being and relationships.
If you find value in content like a podcast, share it with others (e.g., five people) to help spread positive messages and empower more individuals.