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BITESIZE | How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed | Oliver Burkeman #355

Apr 20, 2023 14m 8s 12 insights
Sometimes we can feel overwhelmed by all the things we have to do or want to do, leaving us feeling stressed or anxious.  Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and heart. Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests. Today’s clip is from episode 260 of the podcast with Oliver Burkeman - journalist and author of the book Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management For Mortals. In this clip, Oliver reveals some of his tips to help us overcome overwhelm, make better choices, and build a meaningful relationship with time.   Thanks to our sponsor http://www.athleticgreens.com/livemore Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com. Show notes and the full podcast are available at drchatterjee.com/260 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Actionable Insights

1. Accept Time’s Uncontrollable Nature

Understand that you cannot control time, as this realization is crucial for daily life and impacts every moment, preventing stress and poor lifestyle choices that arise from trying to meet an impossible standard.

2. Embrace Time’s Inherent Limits

Avoid using productivity and time management techniques with the goal of overcoming the fundamental human limitation of finite time, as this desire is futile and leads to more stress.

3. Choose Consciously, Accept Trade-offs

Recognize that you are always making choices about how to spend your finite time, and strive for the freedom that comes from making these decisions consciously, understanding that prioritizing one thing means choosing not to do something else.

4. Consciously Prioritize Due to Finitude

Accept that limited time necessitates making tough choices, meaning you must consciously decide to not do certain things that matter or neglect some relationships to focus on others, because human existence is finite.

5. Decline Desirable Opportunities

Practice saying no not only to undesirable tasks but also to things you genuinely want to do, because the world offers an endless amount of appealing opportunities, and you cannot fit all of them into your life.

6. Prioritize Select Meaningful Activities

Release the futile quest of trying to make time for everything that matters; instead, consciously choose to make time for only some things that matter and accept that you cannot do everything.

7. Respect Time Constraints, Prioritize

Acknowledge and respect the inherent constraints on your time, as behaving as if there are no limits leads to misallocating time and postponing what truly matters; instead, prioritize important tasks early in the day.

8. Act on Core Priorities Now

Act as if you know you won’t get everything done today by dedicating a small amount of time now to something you truly care about, instead of postponing it until all other tasks are completed.

9. Simple 2-Step Priority System

Use a two-step time management technique: first, choose something that genuinely matters to you, and second, commit to giving it at least 20 minutes of your time today or this week, accepting that other things may not get done.

10. Dispel Perfect Work-Life Balance

Let go of the impossible ideal of achieving perfect work-life balance, as striving for 100% perfection in both work and personal life creates undue pressure and an unachievable standard.

11. Embrace Seasonal Life Imbalance

Consider adopting a ‘seasonal approach’ to life, allowing for periods of imbalance where you might go ‘all in’ on a career or, conversely, ease up and do the minimum required in one area to prioritize another, such as raising young children.

12. Set Realistic Self-Expectations

Assess the actual amount of time you possess and the limitations of your control over it, then adjust your expectations to what you can reasonably ask of yourself, rather than adhering to impossible standards.