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BITESIZE | How to Silence Your Inner Critic for a Happier, Healthier Life | Dr Kristin Neff #233

Jan 28, 2022 12m 58s 10 insights
Being kind to ourselves is so important for our health and our happiness, but often the negative voice in our head can start to overwhelm our thoughts. Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and heart.  Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests.   Today’s clip is from episode 163 of the podcast with one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion Dr Kristin Neff. In this clip, she explains why self-compassion is so important for our wellbeing and our physical and mental health. She also gives some great tips to help us silence our inner critic. Thanks to our sponsor http://www.athleticgreens.com/livemore Order Dr Chatterjee's new book Happy Mind, Happy Life: UK version: https://amzn.to/304opgJ, US & Canada version: https://amzn.to/3DRxjgp Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/3oAKmxi. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com.   Show notes and the full podcast are available at drchatterjee.com/163 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Self-Compassion for Health

Actively practice self-compassion as it is the antidote to harsh self-criticism, which is linked to negative physical health outcomes like high cortisol and inflammation, and is crucial for overall physical and emotional well-being.

2. Prioritize Intention to Help

When practicing self-compassion, focus on the genuine intention to help yourself, as this underlying motive is more significant than the exact words or actions you use.

3. Practice Mindful Awareness of Pain

Cultivate mindfulness to turn towards and be aware of your pain or difficulties without avoiding them or becoming consumed by them, allowing for the perspective needed to respond compassionately.

4. Respond to Pain with Kindness

After becoming mindfully aware of your suffering, respond to yourself with warmth, care, and understanding, offering a kind response instead of a harsh one.

5. Embrace Common Humanity in Suffering

Counteract feelings of ‘poor me’ by recognizing that suffering, imperfection, and making mistakes are part of the universal human condition, fostering a sense of interconnectedness rather than isolation.

6. Talk to Yourself Like a Friend

When facing difficulties, consider what you would say to a good friend in a similar situation and apply that same kind, supportive language to yourself.

7. Reframe Inner Critic’s Message

Instead of shutting down your inner critic, acknowledge its intention to help by saying ’thank you,’ and then ask it to rephrase its message in more constructive terms.

8. Embrace & Support Negative Feelings

Do not deny negative feelings like pain or stress; instead, embrace them with concern and simultaneously generate positive feelings of warmth, kindness, and connection to strengthen your ability to cope.

9. Use Believable Self-Talk

When practicing self-compassion, use language that feels comfortable and believable to you, starting with phrases like ‘may I start to be kinder to myself’ if overly sweet language creates internal conflict.

10. Daily AG1 for Gut Health

Consider incorporating AG1, a daily health drink, into your routine as it supports digestion and contains beneficial gut bacteria strains that enrich the gut microbiome and plant-based compounds that act as food sources for these bacteria.