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BITESIZE | How to Reduce Anxiety and Build Self-Confidence | Chloe Brotheridge #164

Mar 12, 2021 12m 45s 13 insights
We all have times when we lack self-confidence, but loss of confidence, low self-esteem and anxiety can sometimes hold us back and stop us living the life we want to live. Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my new weekly podcast for your mind, body and heart. Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests. Today’s clip is from episode 65 of the podcast with hypnotherapist, anxiety expert and author, Chloe Brotheridge. Chloe explains why it’s important to be kind to ourselves and how we can train our mind to have a more positive outlook in order to grow our confidence and self-esteem. Striving for perfection can be problematic and it’s important for us to acknowledge that sometimes we are going to fail. Chloe explains how we can reframe these ‘failures’ as learning experiences and focus on things being ‘good enough’. We discuss the power of journaling to help us process our thoughts and emotions. Chloe also recounts her own struggles with self-confidence and gives some great tips to help us decrease negative self-talk and cultivate more self-acceptance. Show notes and the full podcast are available at drchatterjee.com/65 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee/ Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee/ Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Actionable Insights

1. Confidence is a Learnable Skill

Understand that confidence is not a fixed trait but a skill that can be developed and improved over time. This empowers you to actively work on building your self-assurance.

2. Act Despite Fear

Recognize that it’s normal to feel afraid or like an imposter, even for successful individuals. Give yourself permission to try new things and take action despite experiencing fear, as this builds courage.

3. Challenge Fear Incrementally

When facing anxiety-inducing situations, challenge yourself with small, manageable steps, such as committing to stay for only five minutes or talking to just one person. This gradually retrains your nervous system to understand that these situations are survivable, thereby growing confidence.

4. Step Outside Comfort Zone

Actively seek opportunities to go outside your comfort zone. This process is like working out a muscle; each time you successfully navigate a feared situation, your nervous system learns you can survive, building confidence.

5. Abandon Perfectionism

Stop striving for perfection, as it is an impossible and subjective goal that leads to constant dissatisfaction and inaction. This mindset often stems from not feeling good enough and can be toxic.

6. Embrace Good Enough

Shift your focus from perfection to simply aiming for ‘good enough’ and celebrating progress. Be kind to yourself, accept that failure will happen, and understand that progress is the true goal.

7. Cultivate Acceptance

Develop an attitude of acceptance and embrace things as they are. This approach can lead to a sense of contentment and satisfaction, making situations feel ‘perfect’ through a shift in internal perspective.

8. Train Positive Self-Talk

Actively train your mind to think of yourself in more positive ways to counteract the brain’s natural negativity bias. This practice helps to grow your self-esteem and confidence.

9. Daily Self-Appreciation Practice

Every day, make a habit of identifying three things you appreciate about yourself, what you did well, or challenges you overcame. This practice retrains your mind to look for positives, fostering self-esteem and confidence.

10. Learn From Setbacks

When faced with a perceived failure, practice self-kindness instead of self-criticism. Ask yourself what you can learn from the situation and how you can use that information to improve next time, enabling you to try again.

11. Practice Stream-of-Consciousness Journaling

Get a notepad and write a stream of consciousness about whatever worries or thoughts are on your mind, either in the morning or before bed. This helps put feelings into words, process emotions, and gain a sense of control over anxious thoughts.

12. Feelings Are Temporary

Remind yourself that no feelings, especially anxiety, stay the same forever. This understanding provides hope and encourages you to take steps to help yourself, knowing your current state is not permanent.

13. Incorporate Daily Health Drink

Consider incorporating a daily health drink like AG1 into your routine. This can support digestion and enrich your gut microbiome, potentially impacting mood and overall well-being, especially during winter.