Ensure your pursuits (e.g., career, education) are truly motivated by your inner desire and purpose, such as serving humanity or solving problems, rather than external pressures or the desire to impress others.
To understand your true values, review your bank statements to see where your money is spent and reflect on where you currently spend your time, as these actions reveal what you genuinely value, not just what you think you value.
List three current pursuits and critically question whether the desire for them originates from your own dreams and desires, or if it stems from external pressures, family expectations, or social comparisons.
After identifying the origin of your pursuits, decide if you still genuinely want to continue them, if they need to be modified, or if they should be abandoned entirely, to ensure you are building a life aligned with your true desires.
Treat the values audit as a regular habit, like gardening, by revisiting it monthly to “pull out the weeds” (unwanted values or habits) and “plant new seeds” (cultivate desired values), preventing them from being covered by other desires.
To lead a more meaningful, purposeful, healthy, wealthy, and wise life, consciously invest your time in educational activities like reading books, watching documentaries, taking courses, and listening to podcasts, rather than solely on entertainment.
Recognize that you are not defined by your negative thoughts, criticisms, or unhealthy habits; these are merely conditioned behaviors you’ve adopted, and by consciously disconnecting your identity from them, you empower yourself to change these habits and, in turn, change yourself.
Challenge yourself to avoid comparing, complaining, and criticizing by using a jar to track instances of these behaviors, while also tracking collaborative, supportive, and grateful actions in a separate jar, turning it into a competitive game to improve your habits.
Approach the process of self-auditing and understanding your values with enthusiasm and make it fun, as learning about yourself can be an exciting and enjoyable experience that helps you tune into who you truly are.
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