Actively recognize and avoid ‘drift,’ which is the decision made by not deciding, often by following obvious paths or external expectations, as it can lead to unhappiness in major life choices.
Prioritize actions that align with your core values, even if they don’t bring immediate pleasure or comfort, because living in harmony with your values contributes to a deeper and more meaningful sense of happiness.
Prioritize building and maintaining intimate, enduring bonds where you feel you belong, can confide, and both give and receive support, as strong relationships are a fundamental requirement for happiness across all life domains.
Shift your perspective from aiming for a fixed state of ‘happiness’ to focusing on whether specific actions will make you ‘happier’ in the future, as this process-oriented approach is often clearer and more actionable.
Regularly assess your life by asking if it provides more of what you love, reduces negative emotions like guilt or anger, aligns with your values, and fosters personal growth, as these four factors are crucial for overall happiness.
If you feel stuck or suspect you’ve drifted into the wrong path, examine how you naturally choose to spend your free time, as these activities often reveal your true passions and inclinations.
When faced with indecision, ask yourself which option represents the ‘bigger life’ for you, allowing this intuitive question to cut through rational overthinking and connect with your core desires.
Cultivate happiness by actively engaging with the problems of other people and the world, as happier individuals are more inclined to donate, volunteer, and offer help, demonstrating that happiness provides the emotional capacity to turn outward.
Actively seek to build true friendships with colleagues at work, ensuring you have someone you trust and who has your back, and look for bosses who genuinely care about your progress and growth.
Be vigilant for signs of drift, such as doing things because others are, feeling you ‘should’ do something, or reactively taking opportunities, as these indicate a lack of intentional decision-making in your life.
Make conscious and continuous efforts to deepen your connections with other people, as strong and meaningful relationships are a foundational element for overall well-being and happiness.
Implement a routine of warm hellos and goodbyes at home, such as standing up for hugs or kisses, to foster a tender atmosphere and attentiveness among family members, rather than disengaged interactions.
Send regular, simple ‘update’ emails every five to seven days to distant family members, sharing even mundane details, to maintain a granular understanding of each other’s lives and deepen connection, remembering that ‘it’s okay to be boring’.