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BITESIZE | How to Control Your Attention and Choose the Life You Want to Live | Nir Eyal #241

Feb 25, 2022 12m 27s 18 insights
We often get distracted from the things that we want to do. Our plans get sidetracked and our work never seems to get done. Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and heart.  Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests.   Today’s clip is from episode 120 of the podcast with former Stanford lecturer, and author of the book ‘Indistractable’, Nir Eyal.  In this clip he shares some actionable techniques that will help you design your time, realise your ambitions, and live the life you really want. Thanks to our sponsor http://www.athleticgreens.com/livemore Order Dr Chatterjee's new book Happy Mind, Happy Life: UK version: https://amzn.to/304opgJ, US & Canada version: https://amzn.to/3DRxjgp Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts https://apple.co/3oAKmxi. For other podcast platforms go to https://fblm.supercast.com.   Show notes and the full podcast are available at drchatterjee.com/120 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Actionable Insights

1. Time Management is Pain Management

Acknowledge that all human behavior, including distraction, is fundamentally driven by a desire to escape discomfort. This perspective helps reframe time management as pain management, allowing for deeper solutions.

2. Understand Internal Triggers

Recognize that most distractions stem from internal triggers – uncomfortable sensations or emotional states – rather than just external pings and notifications. Understanding this root cause is crucial for addressing distraction effectively.

3. Channel Discomfort Towards Traction

Learn to control your response to uncomfortable feelings rather than letting them lead to automatic distraction. Channel these sensations (stress, anxiety, uncertainty) towards productive “traction” instead.

4. Three Techniques for Indistraction

Employ three core techniques to manage internal triggers: reimagine the trigger itself, reimagine the task you need to do, and reimagine your own temperament. These provide a framework for addressing distraction.

5. Cultivate Personal Integrity

Strive for personal integrity by doing what you say you will do. This helps you become indistractable and aligns your actions with your intentions.

6. Distinguish Traction from Distraction

Define actions as “traction” if they align with your intentions and “distraction” if they pull you away. This framework helps you understand and categorize your behaviors based on intent.

7. Act with Intent

Engage in any activity with conscious intent, even seemingly “frivolous” ones like social media. If you choose to do it because you want to, it becomes an act of traction rather than distraction.

8. Identify Pernicious Distractions

Be wary of “pernicious distractions” that masquerade as productive tasks (e.g., checking email or doing research) but prevent you from starting your intended high-priority work. Recognize these as distractions to avoid falling into the trap of pseudo-productivity.

9. Track Preceding Emotions

When you feel discomfort, note the sensation using a distraction tracker. Identify the specific emotion (e.g., boredom, anxiety) that preceded your urge to distract yourself, as simply writing it down can be empowering.

10. Explore Sensations with Curiosity

After noting an uncomfortable sensation, explore it with curiosity instead of self-criticism or contempt. This shift in perspective helps you understand and process the feeling more constructively.

11. Surf the Urge

Practice “surfing the urge” by recognizing that uncomfortable emotions are temporary, like waves that crest and subside. Instead of immediately reacting, ride out the sensation, understanding it will pass.

12. Apply the 10-Minute Rule

Implement the “10-minute rule” when tempted by distraction: tell yourself you can give in to the temptation, but only after 10 minutes. This method is more effective than strict abstinence, which often backfires.

13. Choose During the 10-Minutes

During the 10-minute waiting period of the “10-minute rule,” you have a choice: either return to your intended task or use the time to get curious about the uncomfortable sensation driving the urge. This allows for conscious engagement with the feeling.

14. Be With the Sensation

When using the 10-minute rule, set a timer, put down the distracting item (e.g., phone), and simply be with the uncomfortable sensation. The aim is to reimagine that feeling in a way that benefits you, rather than harms you.

15. Practice Self-Compassion

Practice self-compassion instead of self-berating when you feel discomfort or get distracted. Talk to yourself as you would a good friend, recognizing that discomfort, boredom, or anxiety are natural parts of the effortful process of improvement.

16. Learn from Distractions

Understand that being indistractable isn’t about never getting distracted, but about striving to fulfill your intentions and learning from instances of distraction. Use distractions as opportunities for growth and understanding.

17. Understand Why You Get Distracted

When you get distracted, take the time to understand why it happened. This understanding allows you to take proactive steps to prevent similar distractions in the future, breaking the cycle of repeated distractions.

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