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BITESIZE | A Monk’s Guide To Finding Happiness & Cultivating Inner Peace | Haemin Sunim #595

Nov 14, 2025 21m 7s 11 insights
What if the key to happiness and fulfilment was not changing our external circumstances but learning to appreciate and understand our inner world?  Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and heart. Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests. Today's clip is from episode 476 of the podcast with Buddhist monk and author Haemin Sunim. Haemin is a Zen Buddhist teacher and the author of two Sunday Times bestselling books, including his very latest, the beautiful: ‘When Things Don’t Go Your Way: Zen Wisdom for Difficult Times.’ In this clip, he shares some of his tips and practical insights for a better life. This was a beautiful conversation, full of deep and practical insights that I’m sure will help you find greater peace, purpose and contentment. Thanks to our sponsor ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drinkag1.com/livemore⁠ Show notes and the full podcast are available at drchatterjee.com/476 Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts ⁠⁠https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore⁠⁠ For other podcast platforms go to ⁠⁠https://fblm.supercast.com.
Actionable Insights

1. Release External Control

Consciously let go of trying to control things outside your influence, especially how others think or speak about you, to free yourself from psychological stress and struggle.

2. Prioritize Others’ Happiness

Shift your focus from trying to make yourself happy to making other people happy, as this often leads to greater personal happiness and a sense of meaning, while still balancing with self-care.

3. Daily Solitude in Nature

Cultivate a daily practice of solitude, ideally by spending 30 minutes to an hour alone in nature without your cell phone, to nourish yourself, reflect, restore balance, and gain perspective on stressful thoughts.

4. Avoid External Validation Seeking

Do not ask what others have said about you, as this can lead to a negative mindset; instead, focus on your own pure intentions and act in accordance with your values, understanding that others’ opinions often reflect themselves.

5. Self-Validate Achievements

Become your own validator by writing down and celebrating your past achievements and positive actions, especially when feeling down, to build self-worth and counteract the tendency to downgrade your accomplishments.

6. Reconnect with Pure Intention

Regularly remember your original intention or ‘beginner’s mind’ for your actions, especially when facing criticism, to stay grounded and continue your work if your purpose remains pure.

7. Balance Self-Care & Others

Find a balance between self-care and helping others by regularly checking in with your body; if you feel extremely tired from helping others, prioritize taking care of your own needs.

8. Seek Real-World Connections

Actively seek out connections with other people, even small interactions with strangers, and with nature, as these real-world connections are a key ingredient for happiness and can significantly boost your mood.

9. Establish a Sacred Space

Identify or create a ‘sacred space’ – a specific corner, a favorite spot in a public place, or a dedicated area at home – and visit it regularly to relax, be yourself, and enjoy solitude.

10. Daily Gut Health Support

Consider taking AG1 daily to support digestion and enrich your gut microbiome, as it contains five strains of gut bacteria shown to increase beneficial bacteria up to tenfold.

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