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BITESIZE | 5 Life Lessons Everybody Learns Too Late (And How to Live With Fewer Regrets) | Bronnie Ware #601

Dec 5, 2025 23m 51s 16 insights
What do you think you might be saying on your deathbed? Will you be looking back at your life with a sense of joy and completeness, or, do you think that perhaps you might be consumed with regret?  As today’s guest shares, “It’s easy to assume that you will live with great health to a ripe old age, then die peacefully in your sleep wearing your favourite pyjamas but it doesn’t work out that way for most people…” Feel Better Live More Bitesize is my weekly podcast for your mind, body, and heart. Each week I’ll be featuring inspirational stories and practical tips from some of my former guests. Today’s clip is from episode 383 of the podcast with former palliative care nurse and author of the best-selling book ‘The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying’, Bronnie Ware. In this clip, we reflect on some of the meaningful lessons Bronnie learned from those at the end of life, and she shares some thought provoking insights that could help us live better lives right now. Thanks to our sponsor ⁠⁠⁠https://drinkag1.com/livemore Show notes and the full podcast are available at https://drchatterjee.com/383 Support the podcast and enjoy Ad-Free episodes. Try FREE for 7 days on Apple Podcasts ⁠⁠https://apple.co/feelbetterlivemore⁠⁠ For other podcast platforms go to ⁠⁠https://fblm.supercast.com.
Actionable Insights

1. Live True to Yourself

Prioritize living a life true to yourself, not one dictated by others’ expectations, as this foundational choice naturally leads to better work-life balance, maintaining friendships, and choosing happiness, thereby preventing other common regrets.

2. Cultivate 3 Regret-Free Qualities

Foster strong family relationships with good communication, embrace humor to laugh at mistakes and life’s winding road without taking things too seriously, and develop a belief in something greater than yourself (religious or spiritual) to live a life with fewer regrets.

3. Acknowledge Mortality to Live

Face the reality of your own mortality and recognize the sacredness of your time, as this awareness provides the courage to trust your path and truly live life.

4. Prioritize Quality Relationships

Actively focus on and prioritize the quality of your relationships, as they are consistently identified as a key factor for health and happiness in life.

5. Don’t Let Work Define You

Avoid making work your entire identity and life, as patients on their deathbeds regretted having nothing left when work was gone and not spending time with family or pursuing personal dreams.

6. Schedule Unplanned Space

Intentionally schedule ‘unplanned time’ with no agenda, even if it’s just two or three hours a week, because this ‘space is medicine’ approach allows for greater efficiency and clarity when returning to work.

7. Honor Life’s Cravings

Identify aspects of life you crave (e.g., family time, hobbies) and commit to regularly carving out time for them, even if it’s only a few hours a week or fortnight, as this commitment fosters a better life and encourages life to support your choices.

8. Seek Balanced Employment

If your current job demands excessively long hours (e.g., 60 hours/week) to the point of threatening your well-being, consider that you might be in the wrong job and actively seek employment that allows for a healthier work-life balance (e.g., 35-40 hours/week).

9. Find Belief in Something Greater

Develop a belief in something greater than yourself, whether through religion, spirituality, or nature, as this provides a sense of trust and contentment with how you’ve lived your life.

10. Embrace Humor, Judge Less

Cultivate a humorous approach to life, not taking things too seriously, as this mindset helps reduce self-judgment and allows for a more regret-free existence.

11. Courage: Break Through Resistance

Understand courage as the act of breaking through resistance and fear, allowing you to proceed with actions even when scared, effectively dismantling the internal walls that prevent you from doing things.

12. Overcome Fear of Potential

Confront and overcome the fear of your own potential, including fears of what others think, failing, or wasting time, as these are common barriers to acting with courage and pursuing your dreams.

13. Practice Self-Compassion for Mistakes

Prevent mistakes from becoming lifelong regrets by practicing self-compassion for your younger self and avoiding harsh self-judgment, recognizing that mistakes are a natural part of human imperfection and learning.

14. Embrace Mistakes for Learning

Accept that making mistakes is an inherent part of being human and how we learn and grow, rather than viewing them as failures.

15. Trust Your Own Path

Cultivate the belief that you will be okay if you choose to live life on your own terms, rather than conforming to external expectations.

16. Be Open to Life’s Messages

Recognize that important life messages often ’land’ when you are ready to receive them, so remain open to hearing advice in new ways, even if you’ve heard similar things before, as timing and articulation can make a difference.