We often seem to be our own worst enemies and there are some common ways that many of us self-sabotage. Self-sabotage is a spectrum of feelings, beliefs, and behaviours, but they all set us up to fail.
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Today’s clip is from episode 332 of the podcast with clinical psychologist, Dr Ramani Durvasula. In this clip, she explains why perfectionism, social comparison and not living in alignment with our values are common forms of self-sabotage, and she shares some practical solutions to help overcome them.
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Actionable Insights
1. Define Your Core Values
Intentionally and honestly ask yourself, “Who am I? What do I stand for? What am I about?” daily to recalibrate your focus, create distance from social comparison, and ensure you are living in alignment with your personal values.
2. Tolerate Imperfection Discomfort
Practice tolerating the discomfort of not being perfect by intentionally exposing yourself to imperfect situations (e.g., submitting work as is, hosting with some mess) to realize that nothing terrible happens, similar to exposure therapy.
3. Seek & Share Realness
Gain perspective by hearing the truth from others about their struggles and imperfections, and contribute to a more compassionate world by being open and honest about your own challenges (without oversharing).
4. Conduct Mental Experiments
Perform mental experiments or guided imagery to visualize the day-to-day reality of achieving what you think you want (e.g., more money, notoriety) and assess if it truly aligns with your mission and desired life.
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