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Arianna Huffington: Microsteps and Rituals to Help You Thrive #136

Dec 2, 2020 1h 35m 21 insights
In times of uncertainty, anxiety and stress, taking care of your wellbeing is more important than ever and no one knows this better than my guest on today’s episode. Arianna Huffington is author and businesswoman who founded the original ‘internet newspaper’, The Huffington Post. She’s also one of Time magazine’s 100 Most Influential People in the World and on Forbes’ Most Powerful Women list. After collapsing at her desk from sleep deprivation and exhaustion in 2007, Arianna became more passionate about the connection between wellbeing and performance. She therefore launched a company called Thrive Global with a mission of ending the stress and burnout epidemic by offering individuals, companies and communities sustainable, science-based solutions to wellbeing. Arianna and I share a desire to show millions of people globally that habit change and healthy living doesn’t have to be hard. We are both passionate that tiny ‘microsteps’ that we can all take each day, can have a dramatic impact on our health and the quality of our lives. Arianna talks me through her Thrive app, which is like a ‘health coach in your pocket’ and how it uses the concept of ‘microsteps’ to show that behaviour change doesn’t have to be a huge commitment. Small things you can do that, if regular and consistent, will add up to significant and lasting benefits. We discuss the idea of ‘compassionate directness’ as a way of resolving tensions both at home and at work. Arianna shares her wisdom on sleep, motherhood, on creating boundaries when working from home, and on having rituals to mark the end of the day. We also speak about the importance of solitude and discuss how modern life is sending many of us back to ancient wisdom and texts such as the Bhagavad Gita. This conversation is full of brilliant tips and I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.  Show notes available at drchatterjee.com/136 Follow me on instagram.com/drchatterjee/ Follow me on facebook.com/DrChatterjee/ Follow me on twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk
Actionable Insights

1. Live Life Rigged in Your Favor

Embrace the Rumi quote, “Live life as if it is rigged in your favor,” by recognizing that even setbacks and heartbreaks can ultimately lead to positive outcomes and opportunities when viewed in retrospect.

2. Declare Day’s End Ritual

Create a ritual, such as turning off your phone and charging it outside your bedroom, to declare an end to your day, even if tasks are unfinished. This is essential for a recharging night’s sleep and stopping the consumption of news.

3. Start Day with Agency

Dedicate 60 seconds before checking your phone to focus on your breath, practice gratitude, and set an intention for the day. This allows you to have agency over your day rather than immediately reacting to external demands.

4. Breath Is Your Superpower

Recognize that breath is a superpower for arresting the cycle of stress and transforming health and productivity. Experiment with techniques like box breathing (inhale 4, pause 4, exhale 4, pause 4) and find one to return to multiple times daily.

5. Embrace Micro Steps for Change

Instead of relying on willpower for big changes, incorporate tiny micro steps or “one better choice a day” into your daily life around food, movement, gratitude, sleep, and family. These are easily integrated and lead to lasting habits.

6. Practice Compassionate Directness

Express what you are feeling in a compassionate way, both at work and at home, to clear the air and resolve problems. Holding onto emotions is toxic and detrimental to health.

7. Cultivate Daily Solitude

Integrate even 5-10 minutes of solitude into your day, free from devices and external consumption, to allow your thoughts to emerge and reconnect with yourself. The phone is a major enemy of solitude.

8. Teach Phone Hygiene

Teach yourself and your children “phone hygiene” by having a designated “phone bed” where devices are charged outside the bedroom overnight. Frame it not as a punishment but as a necessary rest for the phone, preventing late-night scrolling and improving sleep.

9. Implement Habit Stacking

Practice habit stacking by linking new micro-habits to established actions, such as thinking of three things you’re grateful for while washing your hands or dishes. This helps to easily integrate them into your daily life.

10. Create Personalized Reset Guide

Design a 60-second personalized “reset” guide with calming images (e.g., family, nature), favorite quotes, and relaxing music, combined with a breathing pacer. This helps to quickly shift from stress and can promote intimacy when shared with others.

11. Foster Storytelling for Change

Leverage storytelling, both personally and within organizations, by sharing how small changes have impacted your life. This connects with people’s hearts, provides cultural permission, and encourages peers to adopt similar behaviors.

12. Engage in Tea Ritual

Establish a simple, device-free ritual, like sharing a pot of mint tea for five minutes each night, to intentionally catch up with your partner. This fosters intimacy and prevents small issues from accumulating.

13. Lead with Vulnerability

If you are in a leadership position, share your own story of making positive changes. This demonstrates vulnerability, grants cultural permission for others to speak about their experiences, and fosters authenticity within the organization.

14. Embrace “Disagree and Commit”

Encourage team members to express their ideas and concerns, but once a decision is made, everyone should commit to it. This follows the principle of “disagree and commit” to ensure progress without becoming a perpetual debating society.

15. View Failure as Stepping Stone

Recognize that failure is not the opposite of success but a stepping stone towards it. This fosters a willingness to take risks and learn from setbacks without being deterred.

16. Cultivate Unconditional Loving

Offer unconditional love to your children, as this is the greatest gift. It empowers them to take risks and pursue their goals knowing that their worth is not tied to their achievements or failures.

17. Prioritize 7-9 Hours Sleep

Ensure you get between seven and nine hours of sleep nightly, as this is crucial for fully recharging your body and brain, clearing toxins, and completing all necessary sleep cycles. This applies unless you have a rare genetic mutation.

18. Practice Self-Compassion in Habits

When you miss a new habit or fall off track, practice self-compassion by avoiding judgment. Simply commit to restarting the habit the next day, understanding that perfection is not the goal.

19. Teach Children Communication Skills

Teach children how to have a good grasp of language and use words effectively, including debating skills. This builds incredible confidence and empowers them to move hearts and minds.

20. Use Incentives for Good Habits

Just as industries use incentives to encourage certain behaviors, leverage similar strategies, including gamification and financial rewards, to motivate individuals towards healthy choices and habit formation.

21. Rethink Success Mindset

Challenge the belief that success requires constant “powering through” and being “on all the time.” Understand that this mindset, derived from revering machines, is detrimental to human well-being and productivity; rest and well-being enhance performance.