Live by radical responsibility, feeling your feelings, speaking candidly, and being impeccable with agreements to achieve energetic wholeness and feel fully alive. This framework is a cornerstone for vitality and prevents life force diminishment.
Choose to move out of blaming and criticizing, claiming agency for your experience rather than being at the effect of the world. This practice brings a surge of energy and ends victimhood.
Regularly ask if there’s a feeling that wants to be felt, bringing full, non-judgmental attention to body sensations until they release. This prevents energy repression, allows life to appear in technicolor, and restores life force.
Avoid accumulating withholds (unsaid thoughts, wants, judgments) as they dampen aliveness and lead to withdrawal and projection in relationships. Instead, reveal authentically, connect, and own your projections to foster intimacy and aliveness.
Make clear agreements with a ‘whole body yes,’ keep them (aim for 90%), renegotiate proactively if needed, and clean up broken agreements without excuses. This dramatically increases aliveness and deepens trust in all relationships.
Understand the four core human wants (approval, control, security, oneness) and stop outsourcing them to external people or circumstances. Cultivate a profound internal sense of okayness to reduce vulnerability to external triggers and reactivity.
Engage in daily practices like meditation or inquiry (‘Who am I?’) to understand the truth of what you are beyond your roles and reputation. This helps you disidentify from ego identity when it’s threatened, preventing reactive states and fostering deeper truth.
Understand that a practice is for a desired outcome (discipline), while a ritual is a physical act pointing to something transcendent (devotion). Engage in rituals with full attention and offering to experience something bigger than yourself and create awe.
Pre-decide with partners to ‘call the game’ during conflict and use immediate shift moves like conscious breathing, recommitting to conscious listening, using the drama triangle for exaggeration, or differentiating facts from stories. This helps break reactive cycles and promotes learning.
Recognize that how you handle a million small, ordinary moments (slights, minor conflicts) accumulates over time, determining the trajectory of your relationships and life. These moments are decision points that either move you closer to or further from your desired self and outcomes.