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How To Build A Cult | Lulu Cheng Meservey

Sep 16, 2025 1h 49m 33 insights
Lulu Cheng Meservey is one of the sharpest minds in communications and strategy. She has helped some of the best leaders through their hardest moments. We talk about why trust and conviction are contagious, how to win attention in a noisy world, and how to handle attacks without losing ground. ----- About Lulu: Having been CCO and EVP of Corporate Affairs at Activision Blizzard and VP of Comms at Substack, she is now the creator of Rostra, the only advisory firm focused on founder-led comms. ----- Approximate Timestamps:
Actionable Insights

1. Leaders Must Communicate Directly

Have the leader of an enterprise speak directly about their vision, rather than relying on intermediaries or PR teams. This conveys human conviction, builds trust, and is essential for rallying people around an original vision, especially for startups.

2. Find Venn Diagram Overlap

Determine your communication narrative by finding the overlap between what you care about and what your specific audience cares about. This ‘gateway drug’ hook makes people receptive and allows you to lead them into your broader message.

3. Convey Human Conviction

Convey messages with absolute human conviction, looking people in the eye and telling them with unwavering belief that something is true. People find it hard to resist conviction, making them buy into what you’re saying, even if the pitch’s merits are weak.

4. Prioritize the Hook

Spend most effort on crafting a sharp, engaging hook for your communication before considering story details or distribution channels. The hook is the most overlooked and high-leverage part, as attention spans are very short (e.g., <5 seconds for video, first paragraph for text).

5. Engineer Trust & Shared Values

Build trust by becoming familiar through repeated exposure and establishing a set of shared values with your audience. People trust those they know and those who share their core beliefs, making them more receptive to your message.

6. CEO’s Role: Weigh All Interests

As a CEO, weigh legal risks against other critical factors like trust, reputational risk, and long-term company value, rather than solely deferring to lawyers. The CEO’s job is to find the net optimal outcome, as reputational damage can cost far more than legal fees.

7. Establish Second Strike Capability

Build a reputation for fighting back if provoked, making it clear you are not a soft target and will respond to attacks. This establishes strong deterrence, making your life easier in the long run by discouraging future attacks.

8. Spar to Sharpen Thinking

Regularly engage in sparring sessions with diverse viewpoints, surrounding yourself with people who will challenge your ideas and welcome skepticism. This practice makes you intellectually sharper, better prepared for real-world confrontations, and prevents intellectual brittleness.

9. Be Intentional About Personal Brand

Consciously decide what image you want to project in any life context (e.g., as an employee, friend, partner) and intentionally present proof points that foster that perception. People retain very few things about us; intentionality prevents haphazard perception and helps achieve goals like promotions.

10. Cultivate Belief to Override Rationality

Inspire belief in your vision to overcome immediate rational objections, making people see the world through a new prism. Belief can supersede immediate logic, enabling recruitment of talent and support for ambitious, seemingly irrational goals.

11. Fight Stories with Stories

When facing an opponent using stories, counter their narratives with your own powerful stories, looking for them ‘under the statistics.’ Statistics are less impactful than stories, especially when facing narrative attacks.

12. Tie Facts to Narrative Arcs

Present information by tying facts together in a chain to form a bigger narrative arc, rather than just dropping isolated facts. This gives people something to hang on to and feel compelled to follow, making your message more engaging.

13. Define Your Audience Specifically

Clearly define who you are speaking to (e.g., company employees, specific interest groups) rather than trying to address an infinite audience. Watering down messages for a too-broad audience makes them ineffective; specificity allows for maximal interest.

14. Use Humor, Curiosity, Emotion

Craft your hook using humor, curiosity, strong emotion (wow/WTF), or by offering a new angle on a topic your audience already follows. These are common and effective ways to grab and hold attention across different audiences.

15. Be Interesting to Specific Audience

Tailor your message to be maximally interesting to your identified audience by understanding their ‘cultural and intellectual erogenous zones’ and linking your message to them. Trying to be interesting to everyone results in a diluted, marginal message; specificity makes it impactful.

16. Break Corporate Copycat Cycle

Avoid blindly copying existing corporate communication styles; instead, do something original and courageous. Most corporate comms are hollow and meaningless; original approaches can break the cycle and set a better standard.

17. Start Debates by Agreeing

When arguing or debating, always make sure to start by agreeing with your opponent on something, even if it’s trivial. This establishes that seeing things the same way is possible, making productive conversation more likely.

18. Show Up and Defend

Directly confront insults or attacks, especially online, by personally engaging and defending yourself or your organization. Confronting a person (even online) changes behavior, often causing attackers to fold, and builds deterrence.

19. Assess Attack Before Responding

Before responding to an attack, determine if it truly matters by evaluating if it reaches your important audience and if the accusation is material to your reputation. Don’t waste time on irrelevant attacks; focus resources on those that can cause real damage.

20. Respond Immediately & Aggressively

If an attack matters, respond immediately and aggressively to address significant reputational damage head-on. Delaying allows the damage to fester, making it harder and more painful to fix later.

21. Use Pre-buttals for Attacks

If you know what people are going to attack you for, preemptively address those criticisms. Being first allows you to frame the narrative and disarm critics, similar to Eminem’s rap battle strategy.

22. Mute Toxic, Don’t Block Disagreement

Use the mute function for genuinely abusive or threatening content, but allow differing opinions and disagreements into your feed. Insulating yourself from disagreement makes you fragile; engaging with it helps you adapt and grow.

23. Leverage Underdog Position

If you are an underdog facing a powerful attacker, use that position to your advantage by framing attacks from larger entities as punching down. People naturally sympathize with underdogs and are skeptical of bullies, allowing you to rally your aligned audience.

24. Diffuse Pressure by Spreading

When under attack, broaden the scope of the attack to include your allies or a broader cause. This spreads the ‘force’ over a wider ‘surface area,’ diffusing pressure on you and rallying support.

25. Maximize Pressure by Narrowing

When on offense (e.g., in a defensive response), narrow the target of your complaint to maximize pressure. Instead of broad complaints, pinpoint specific issues or individuals to make your complaint more credible and effective.

26. Pick a Specific Foil

To gain attention as an underdog, choose a specific ‘foil’ or concrete obstacle to fight against. This provides something tangible for people to rally around, making your movement more relevant and easier to understand than vague complaints.

27. Focus on Comms Velocity

Ensure your communication efforts have both magnitude (quantity) and a clear direction (purpose). Define the specific idea you want to spread and ensure all comms activities build towards that destination, avoiding frantic, wasted activity.

28. Apologize Only When Accountable

Apologize only when you have genuinely done something wrong and take accountability, but resist apologizing for things you haven’t done. This builds trust and strong deterrence; arbitrary apologies make you a soft target.

29. Use Simple, Common Language

Communicate using simple, common words that everybody knows, avoiding jargon unless your audience specifically understands it. This ensures your message is universally understood and prevents miscommunication.

30. For Micro-Comms, Know WHAT/WHY

For everyday communications like emails, texts, or presentations, clearly define what you want to say and why the audience should care. Most communications lack clear goals; this clarity ensures effectiveness and prevents wasted time.

31. Leverage Halo Effect

Be mindful of who you associate with, as positive associations can enhance your perceived value and trustworthiness. People use proxies and mental shortcuts (the halo effect) to make decisions, so being seen with impressive people or entities can benefit you.

32. Tit for Two Tats Strategy

In long-term relationships and repeated interactions, employ a ’tit for two tats’ strategy: allow one transgression but respond decisively if crossed a second time. This is an optimal balance between cooperation and deterrence.

33. Attach Content to Humans

Have content be attached to a human mascot or representative. People gravitate to human beings and stories, making content more cared about and memorable than generic content.