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Dr. Gio Valiante (Part 1): Discipline and Resilience

Oct 31, 2023 53m 9s 25 insights
In the first of a special two-part episode, celebrated performance psychologist Gio Valiante calls on his vast experience working with some of the world’s top athletes and entrepreneurs. Shane and Valiante discuss developing discipline and resilience in work and life. Valiante offers his thoughts on the five ways to gain an advantage and win and how to change your habits. He also discusses the role your environment plays in discipline and how you can develop resilience in yourself and your children. Valiante is regarded as one of the most successful performance coaches in the world. He’s worked extensively with golfers on the PGA and LPGA Tours, Olympic athletes, and leading figures in NCAA football and the NFL, where he served as the Head Performance Coach of the Buffalo Bills. He has also logged over 5,000 hours coaching some of the most sophisticated investors in the world, including hedge fund manager Steve Cohen. -- Want even more? Members get early access, hand-edited transcripts, member-only episodes, and so much more. Learn more here: https://fs.blog/membership/ Every Sunday our Brain Food newsletter shares timeless insights and ideas that you can use at work and home. Add it to your inbox: https://fs.blog/newsletter/ Follow Shane on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/ShaneAParrish Our
Actionable Insights

1. Change Your Environment, Change Behavior

To change unwanted behaviors or improve yourself, actively modify your physical surroundings and the people you associate with, as the environment powerfully shapes thoughts, feelings, and actions.

2. Implement a Rigorous, Consistent Process

Establish consistent routines for daily activities (e.g., waking time, food, exercise) and work tasks to guard against variability, identify errors, and free up cognitive space for critical decision-making.

3. Act Immediately & Go All-In on Habit Change

If you decide to change a habit later in life, act immediately and commit ‘all in’ without hesitation, as delaying makes it harder to embed new behaviors.

4. Avoid Exceptions When Establishing New Habits

When trying to root a new habit, do not allow any exceptions, even small ones, as a single deviation can trigger old behavioral patterns and undermine progress.

5. Continuously Work at Discipline Daily

Maintain discipline through daily effort, understanding that even after habits are entrenched, ongoing work is required to sustain them and prevent regression.

6. Focus on Changing Actual Behavior

To develop discipline, physically perform the desired behavior repeatedly, as the act of doing it makes it more likely to be repeated and become a habit.

7. Cultivate a Differentiated Perspective

Seek to view your field or problems differently from others, as a unique perspective can unlock new solutions and provide a significant competitive advantage.

8. Develop a Love for Hard Parts of Craft

To achieve excellence and sustain effort, cultivate a love for the difficult and mundane aspects of your work, making the effort feel less like work and more like an avocation.

9. Compensate for Deficiencies by Hiring Effectively

If you lack certain talents or advantages, build a strong team by hiring the best people for each position and managing them effectively to compensate for your own limitations.

10. View Discipline as a Malleable Skill

Approach self-discipline as a continuous learning process, becoming a ‘student of yourself’ to understand and improve your habits over time.

11. Allow Children to Experience Normative Failure

As a parent, avoid overprotecting children from life’s difficulties and allow them to experience failure, as learning to navigate and overcome these challenges is crucial for developing resilience and preventing fragility.

12. Praise Children for Effort, Not Intelligence

When children succeed, praise their effort and hard work (‘You worked really hard!’) rather than their intelligence (‘You’re so smart!’), to foster persistence and a growth mindset in the face of adversity.

13. Foster Self-Confidence Through Trial and Error

Allow children to face and solve hard problems through trial and error, as this process builds genuine self-confidence rooted in their own abilities, essential for successful adulthood.

14. Show Love Through Time and Truth

To make children feel loved, spend significant time with them, tell them the truth, and be willing to do the hard work of parenting, even when it involves inconveniencing yourself or setting boundaries.

15. Encourage Children to Take Intelligent Risks

Support your children in taking intelligent, calculated risks, as this allows them to learn, develop self-reliance, and build problem-solving abilities.

16. Infuse Discipline Early in Life

Instill discipline in children as early as possible, as habits infused quickly are more likely to be sustained throughout their lives.

17. Leverage High-Stakes Situations

When faced with a ’no plan B’ scenario, embrace the ‘primal cues’ to sharpen your focus and accelerate skill development, as this high-stakes environment can drive disproportionate talent and innovation.

18. Apply a ‘Wash, Rinse, Repeat’ Process

For critical tasks, develop a consistent, repeatable routine (e.g., ‘pick a target, make a fearless swing, let it go’) to execute under pressure and reduce variability, like the Fearless Golf Routine.

19. Cultivate Patience for Long-Term Goals

Develop the patience to continue working towards goals even when visible results are not immediately apparent, as a lack of patience often leads to shortcuts and suboptimal outcomes.

20. Develop Capacity to Withstand Pain

Build your mental and emotional capacity to withstand various forms of pain—be it physical, financial, or the discomfort of being different—as this resilience is crucial for navigating crises and standing out.

21. Manage Emotional Urges and Impulses

Practice managing your emotional urges and impulses to avoid common pitfalls and make better decisions, as good temperament is a significant advantage in all areas of life.

22. Prioritize Having the Right Partner

Prioritize having the right partner, whether at home or work, as a supportive partnership can simplify challenges and provide a significant advantage across all life domains.

23. Strategically Position Yourself

Consciously work to position yourself in situations where challenges are easier to navigate, as good positioning can make decision-making simpler and increase your likelihood of success (‘playing on easy mode’).

24. Prioritize and Maintain High Energy

Focus on maintaining high energy levels, as it is a fundamental advantage for performance and daily life, enabling sustained effort and focus.

25. Actively Foster Your Curiosity

Actively cultivate and maintain your curiosity, as it drives learning, exploration, and the discovery of new opportunities and solutions.