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#114 Noreena Hertz: The Crisis of Loneliness

Jun 29, 2021 43m 19s 26 insights
Acclaimed economist and author Noreena Hertz breaks down the world’s loneliness crisis, and what it means for the well-being of our minds, bodies, economies and democratic institutions. In this episode we define loneliness and how to recognize it, its mental and physical health implications, the shame around admitting you’re lonely, what we can do to help alleviate the crisis for ourselves and our kids, and so much more. Hertz has been an Honorary Professor at the Institute for Global Prosperity at University College London since 2014 and she’s the author of five books, including the 2020 release The Lonely Century: Coming Together in a World that's Pulling Apart.    -- Want even more? Members get early access, hand-edited transcripts, member-only episodes, and so much more. Learn more here: https://fs.blog/membership/   Every Sunday our Brain Food newsletter shares timeless insights and ideas that you can use at work and home. Add it to your inbox: https://fs.blog/newsletter/   Follow Shane on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/ShaneAParrish
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Human Relationships

While social robots and technology can individually alleviate loneliness, prioritize investing time and effort in human relationships to avoid neglecting person-to-person connections for societal well-being.

2. Value Friendships Equally

Redefine your support network to view friendship networks as equally meaningful as blood ties, actively investing in them as much as you do in family relationships.

3. Nurture Friendships Actively

Actively prioritize and nurture your friendships, understanding that relationships require consistent time and effort to grow and don’t just happen spontaneously.

4. Be Present in Interactions

Put your phone down and be fully present and in the moment when physically with others, to foster deeper and more meaningful connections.

5. Prioritize Face-to-Face Meetings

Whenever possible and safe, choose to meet people face-to-face over virtual interactions, as in-person connections are more beneficial for feeling connected and empathetic.

6. Reduce Screen Time

Spend less time on screens to improve your ability to interact face-to-face, as excessive screen time makes in-person interaction challenging and can lead to remedial social skills.

7. Take Social Media Breaks

Temporarily disengage from social media platforms, as studies show it can lead to feeling significantly less lonely, happier, and spending more time in-person with friends and family.

8. Remove Phones from Interactions

Keep smartphones away from shared spaces, even when turned off, as their mere presence can make people feel less empathetic and connected during interactions.

9. Nurture Local Neighborhoods

Recognize and nurture the importance of your local neighborhood, similar to how you nurture friendships, by actively engaging with and supporting your community.

10. Shop Local for Community

Commit to shopping at local shops, trading off online convenience to support and nurture your local community and foster local connections.

11. Engage in Community Events

Show up at existing community events or take the initiative to create them if none exist, to foster local connections and engagement within your neighborhood.

12. Initiate Micro-Exchanges

Take a moment to pause and say hello to people you encounter, like someone walking their dog, rather than rushing by, as even brief interactions can make a huge difference to how connected you feel.

13. Seek Brief Social Interactions

Engage in short, 30-second exchanges with people like a cafe server, as these micro-interactions can significantly enhance your feeling of connection and reduce loneliness.

14. Value Kindness and Collaboration

Actively recognize and value traits like kindness, caring, and collaboration in others—be it co-workers, friends, partners, or employees—over purely competitive traits.

15. Reach Out to Lonely Friends

Actively think about and reach out to people in your network who might be feeling lonely, prioritizing them by calling or texting, especially during challenging times.

16. Volunteer for Well-being

Engage in volunteering to help others, as it’s a win-win that can make you feel less lonely and also offers health benefits, with research showing it can increase longevity.

17. Find Community Through Interests

Encourage yourself and your children to find and join communities centered around genuine interests and passions, such as music, drama, or chess, to foster connection with like-minded people.

18. Practice “Yes, And”

Apply the improv rule of “yes, and” in conversations and group discussions to build upon others’ ideas, fostering more collaborative and engaging interactions.

19. Practice Mindful Listening

Engage in activities like improv to practice being fully in the moment and focusing attention on the other person, which helps you become a better, more mindful listener.

20. Protect Public Shared Spaces

Actively protect and support shared public spaces like libraries, community centers, and youth clubs, as they are crucial physical locations for people to come together and connect.

21. Employers: Alleviate Workplace Loneliness

Employers should make alleviating loneliness a critical part of their corporate mission and office redesign post-pandemic, as lonely employees are less productive, less engaged, and more likely to leave.

22. Employers: Foster Office Connection

Companies can foster connection by encouraging employees to eat together and by reconsidering open-plan offices, which surprisingly lead to social withdrawal and increased email communication.

23. Governments: Invest in Community

Governments should invest in community infrastructure and place the alleviation of loneliness at the heart of their economic mission, alongside traditional metrics like GDP, to enhance well-being.

24. Parents: Acknowledge Child Loneliness

As a parent, recognize the high probability that your child is feeling lonely, given that over 60% of young people report frequent loneliness, especially exacerbated by isolation periods.

25. Parents: Monitor Online Social Life

Be aware that your child’s social life largely happens on screens, making it harder to spot exclusion; monitor their social media usage for signs they might not be invited to things.

26. Parents: Destigmatize Loneliness

Have open conversations with your children to destigmatize loneliness within your household, making it easier for them to share their feelings and seek support.