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You Can’t Always Want What You Like

Sep 13, 2021 39m 47s 10 insights
<p>We might love gruelling hikes, trips to see far-flung relatives or super hard crossword puzzles, but often we lack the motivation needed to embark on these fun things. How can that be? They make us happy, right?</p><p>Dr Laurie Santos explores why our brains don't encourage us to do things that we know we'll enjoy, and presents some strategies to help us do more of the activities that will result in happier and healthier lives.</p><p> </p> Learn more about your ad-choices at <a href="https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com">https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com</a><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Practice Urge-Surfing

When experiencing a craving for an easy ’type 1’ reward, mindfully notice the feeling without acting on it, recognizing that the urge is temporary and will pass. This helps manage automatic wanting for things you don’t cognitively desire.

2. Savor Type 2 Rewards

To increase automatic wanting for effortful ’type 2’ rewards, mindfully attend to and actively think about their positive aspects and benefits, boosting both cognitive and incentive salience wanting.

3. Mindfully Contextualize Difficulty

When facing a difficult activity, use mindfulness to recognize that difficulty is only one part of the experience, and connect the activity to your broader values for a more complete and rewarding perspective.

4. Focus on Reward Downsides

To reduce the automatic ‘wanting’ for a type 1 reward, intentionally focus on its long-term negative consequences or how it conflicts with your values.

5. Visualize Post-Activity Joy

When struggling with motivation for a difficult activity, vividly imagine and focus on the positive feelings, satisfaction, and sense of accomplishment you will experience at the end.

6. Seek More Flow Activities

To increase overall happiness and deeper satisfaction, prioritize engaging in flow-inducing activities that require a sweet spot of skill and effort over easy, low-effort ’type 1’ rewards.

7. Minimize Distractions for Flow

To achieve a state of flow and fully engage in effortful activities, proactively shut down potential distractions like social media, email, and texts.

8. Embrace Chosen Suffering

Engage in difficult or uncomfortable activities only when you willingly decide to do so, as this element of choice is critical for them to feel pleasurable or meaningful.

9. Bundle Exercise with Fun

Pair your exercise routine with a second fun and somewhat tempting experience, such as watching a favorite TV show, to make the activity more appealing and easier to start.

10. Make Workouts Frictionless

To reduce the startup cost and make morning workouts easier, have exercise equipment readily available in your house and lay out gym clothes the night before.