← The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

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Sep 13, 2019 38m 29s 17 insights
<p>You can make yourself happier today. Your life circumstances and personality aren't nearly as important as you think in deciding how happy you can be. Dr Laurie Santos explains how understanding the latest science will point you in the right direction and make you more satisfied with your life. Are you ready to feel better?</p><p>For an even deeper dive into the research we talk about in the show visit <a href="https://www.happinesslab.fm/">happinesslab.fm</a></p><p> </p> Learn more about your ad-choices at <a href="https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com">https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com</a><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Strong Relationships

Prioritize and invest in good relationships with other people, as this is one of the strongest predictors of staying healthy and happy throughout your life, even influencing physical health.

2. Prioritize Current Well-being

Focus on improving your well-being and feeling happier now, rather than stressing about future job prospects, salaries, or other external circumstances. The science suggests that improving your current happiness can lead to better life outcomes more naturally.

3. Happiness Requires Consistent Effort

Understand that happiness is not a quick fix or a one-time achievement; it requires consistent, deliberate effort and the creation of lifelong habits, similar to maintaining physical health through diet and exercise.

4. Don’t Chase External Achievements

Avoid the misconception that wealth, career achievements, or ‘shiny baubles’ will bring lasting happiness. The Harvard study shows that once basic material needs are met, more money or career success does not make you appreciably happier.

5. Practice Gratitude and Kindness

Regularly engage in activities that foster gratitude (e.g., counting your blessings, writing down five things you’re grateful for) and kindness (pro-social behavior), as these are scientifically proven strategies to increase happiness.

6. Actively Connect with Others

Make a deliberate effort to spend time with friends and loved ones, scheduling these interactions as a ’to-do list’ item. Also, engage in brief, positive interactions with strangers, such as chatting with someone on your commute.

7. Embrace Daily Healthy Habits

Engage in healthy habits like daily exercise, even when your mind resists, because the science shows these actions will make you healthier, fitter, and happier in the long run.

8. Simplify Daily Choices

Reduce the number of exhausting choices you make on a daily basis to free up mental energy and potentially improve well-being.

9. Accept Emotions and Obstacles

Cultivate acceptance of both the bad emotions you feel and the obstacles you face in life, rather than resisting them.

10. Focus on the Journey

Shift your focus from solely concentrating on the end goal to appreciating and thinking more about the process or journey itself.

11. Implement Science-Backed Strategies

Rely on peer-reviewed scientific research and tested strategies for improving happiness, rather than anecdotal evidence or intuition, as our minds often mispredict what will truly make us happy.

12. Persist in Happiness Efforts

Commit to never giving up on your efforts to maintain happiness, understanding that it takes ongoing work and dedication.

13. Address Dire Circumstances First

If you are in truly awful circumstances, such as poverty, an abusive relationship, or a war zone, prioritize fixing these external life situations, as they will make a huge difference to your happiness.

14. Work Harder if Predisposed

If you have a genetic disposition towards being less happy, understand that you can still become happier, but you may need to work harder at it than others.

15. Avoid Smoking and Alcohol Abuse

Refrain from smoking and excessive alcohol consumption, as these habits are detrimental to your health, shorten your life, and take a toll on relationships and job prospects.

16. Meditate Daily

Practice meditation for 10 minutes each day as a habit to improve your well-being.

17. Ensure Adequate Sleep

Aim to get 8 hours of sleep each night as part of your daily happiness homework.