Give yourself permission to love something, anything, like your life depends on it, even if it seems trivial or silly. This uninhibited pursuit of joy can lead to unexpected happiness and self-discovery by fulfilling personal wants.
If you don’t think you have a passion, consciously observe your interests, carve out mental space, and mindfully pay attention to any sparks of intrigue. Instead of shutting them down, fan the flame of that spark to explore potential new sources of joy.
Challenge feelings of shame or embarrassment about pursuing personal interests that are “just for you.” Recognize that you are entitled to these sources of happiness, which can help you remember your capacity for joy and make life changes.
Seek out and join online forums or real-life fan gatherings (cons) related to your interests. Connecting with a community of people who share your passion can provide comfort, joy, and a deep sense of belonging.
Don’t hide your passions; instead, share them openly, such as displaying memorabilia at work. This can foster unexpected connections and conversations with others, as people are often grateful for something to talk about.
Participate in creative activities like writing fan fiction or engaging in a “shared pretensive reality” at fan conventions. This form of adult play is parallel to childhood pretend play and can be a significant stress reducer and happiness booster.
Allow yourself to form one-sided relationships with real celebrities or fictional characters through media consumption. These relationships can fulfill social needs and provide many of the real-world benefits of actual relationships, making you feel less lonely.
Embrace identifying as a member of a fan franchise (e.g., a “Trekkie” or “Cumberbitch”). This group identity can provide a sense of pride, boost self-esteem, and promote pro-social behavior within the community.
Pursue your passions as intensely as possible, but always ensure that your love for something does not hurt another person. This ensures your engagement with your interests remains positive and healthy.