Actively engage in more talkative, assertive, and spontaneous behaviors, even if you identify as an introvert, because studies show this significantly boosts happiness for both introverts and extroverts.
Be the first to make a move in social interactions, such as waving or saying hello, as people almost always reciprocate, making it easier to connect.
Move beyond ‘shallow talk’ (e.g., weather, commutes) to ‘deep talk’ by sharing personal experiences, hopes, fears, or vulnerabilities, as this fosters true connection and is often less awkward than expected.
Make others feel truly heard and paid attention to, rather than just waiting for your turn to speak, as this is an ‘underrated magic skill’ that transforms how people treat you.
Don’t use introversion as an excuse to avoid social events or opportunities that could be beneficial for personal growth or career, as this limits who you can become.
Deliberately engage in ’terrifying’ social encounters like talking to strangers, public speaking, or improv comedy, as confidence comes from surviving these scary experiences, not from a lack of fear beforehand.
To overcome fear of embarrassment, intentionally ask ‘stupid questions’ to strangers in public, realizing that nothing truly bad will happen and leading to exhilaration.
When invited to social gatherings, commit to going and try to arrive early, as this makes it less intimidating to join groups before established ‘clicks’ form.
Acknowledge that initial social interactions or new behaviors might feel uncomfortable or ‘freezing,’ but understand that with self-compassion and patience, your body and mind will adjust.
Initiate conversations with people like cashiers, baristas, or fellow commuters, as research indicates these interactions make people happier than anticipated.
Start by breaking the ice with just one person in a social setting, as the first interaction is the hardest, and subsequent conversations become progressively easier.
Challenge your preconceived notions that others don’t want to talk to you, as these beliefs can become self-fulfilling prophecies that prevent positive social interactions.