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The Happiness of Silence

Jan 30, 2023 32m 20s 21 insights
<p>We're surrounded by noise. That "noise" can be actual sounds - but also other annoyances and distractions that make it hard for us to concentrate or think clearly. And it's only getting worse - we're all being bombarded with more sirens, more pings, more chatter, more information. And then there are our internal monologues. Silence is just harder to come by. </p> <p>Leigh Marz and Justin Zorn (co-authors of <em>Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise</em>) join Dr Laurie Santos to discuss the benefits of silence and how we can all seek out more moments of quiet and recognise their value.  </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Conduct a Noise Audit

Perform an audit to identify all unwanted distractions (auditory, informational, internal thoughts) and assess how they make you feel, as this is a crucial first step to addressing noise in your life.

2. Monitor for Noise Saturation

Pay attention to physical and emotional signs like irritability, jaw tightness, trouble breathing, panic attacks, relational tension, or a feeling of contraction, as these indicate you are saturated by noise and need more quiet.

3. Prioritize Pristine Attention

Actively value and cultivate ‘pristine human attention’ and quiet time, recognizing it leads to a deeper, more sustainable happiness (eudaimonia) compared to a contracted, dopamine-rush state.

4. Define and Seek Silence

Understand silence as the absence of claims on your consciousness and interference with clear perception and intention, then actively seek this expanded state of being.

5. Identify Your Sphere of Control

Recognize what aspects of noise control are within your influence, even in highly constrained circumstances, to find and leverage small moments of silence and quiet time.

6. Actively Seek Noise Reduction

Within your sphere of influence, proactively look for and implement opportunities to decrease mental clamor and unwanted noise in your daily life.

7. Implement Digital Boundaries

Reduce informational noise by setting digital boundaries, such as removing the email app from your phone for certain hours, to decrease constant claims on your consciousness.

8. Reduce Noise Caused for Others

Actively reduce the noise you create for others by asking a ’truth teller’ about your habits and committing to lessening them, especially in shared environments.

9. Replace Habits with Quiet Breaks

Substitute old habits (like smoking breaks) with healthier ‘quiet breaks’ to intentionally interrupt constant work and flow, allowing for moments of pause and reflection.

10. Reframe Unstructured Moments

Shift your perspective on unexpected pauses or inconveniences (e.g., music stopping, waiting in line) from burdens to ’little gifts’ or ‘pockets of silence’ to be cherished.

11. Practice Just Listening

Incorporate Nada Yoga by stepping into a quiet room or outside and actively listening to nothing in particular, which is edifying for the brain and helps reset the nervous system.

12. Intentionally Hear in Silence

Actively engage in trying to ‘hear in silence’ to stimulate brain activity and promote neural development, particularly in the hippocampus, which is associated with memory.

13. Cultivate Internal Silence via Flow

Engage deeply in activities that induce ‘flow states,’ where full attention on the task leaves no room for self-referential thought, leading to an enjoyable experience of internal quiet.

14. Find Silence in Doing

Integrate silence into daily routines by slowing down activities (e.g., making coffee) by 10% and bringing more focused attention to them, finding quiet within the action itself.

15. Connect with Nature Daily

Cultivate inner quiet by connecting with nature daily; observe something larger (e.g., a towering tree, stars) and something smaller (e.g., a blossom, ants) to produce quiet inside.

16. Visit Calming Spaces

Regularly seek out and visit physical environments that inherently provide a sense of calm and quiet, fostering a more peaceful state of mind.

17. Make Friends with Noise

When noise occurs, greet it with grace, notice what’s arising, and even add humor; when it stops, celebrate its passing with gratitude to improve your response to unavoidable distractions.

18. Quiet Internal Responses to Noise

Reduce the impact of external noise by consciously quieting your internal reactions and responses to it, thereby gaining control over your inner state.

19. Let Go of Internal Noise

Consciously practice letting go of internal noise (worrying, fixating, ruminating) even when external noise is overwhelming, as internal and external noise can form a feedback loop.

20. Practice Humility in Silence

Embrace silence as an act of humility, letting go of the need to constantly fill space or protect your reputation, allowing mental reflexes to rest.

21. Embrace Noise if Reduction is Hard

If current circumstances make actively reducing noise difficult, practice befriending the noise, treating it with grace, or simply letting it be without resistance.