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Survival of the Fittest... or the Kindest?

Sep 16, 2024 33m 13s 14 insights
<p>Some people think they need to be ruthless and selfish to thrive and survive in life. The theories of Charles Darwin are often wrongly interpreted to support this view that being competitive is the key to happiness and success. It isn’t. </p> <p>Dr Laurie Santos and Dr Jamil Zaki find that there are plenty of examples in the animal kingdom and human world where cooperation, kindness and compassion prove to be the winning strategy.</p> <p>Jamil's book <em>Hope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness </em>is out now.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Beware Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

Understand that the theories you adopt about human nature, such as social Darwinism or homo economicus, can become self-fulfilling prophecies, shaping your behavior and the behavior of those around you.

2. Build Cooperative Social Worlds

Recognize that humans can intentionally construct social environments that prioritize cooperation over competition, aligning with Kropotkin’s mutual aid principles rather than social Darwinism.

3. Choose Cooperative Environments

Actively seek out and engage in environments that require working with others, as this fosters generosity and trust, leading to a more fulfilling way of life compared to competitive, solitary environments.

4. Practice Truly Human Leadership

Lead by measuring success through the positive impact on people’s lives (customers, team members, suppliers), fostering a culture of caring as the ‘premium fuel’ for your business model.

5. Leaders: Avoid Selfish Views

If you are a leader, avoid adopting a selfish view of people, as this can negatively change the behavior of your team members, making them more selfish and less productive, ultimately hindering collective success.

6. Leadership Impacts Personal Lives

Understand that your leadership role profoundly affects people’s health and personal lives, making business a powerful force for good if leaders have the courage and skills to care for those they lead.

7. Act Like a Family in Crisis

When faced with a crisis, consider how a caring family would respond by having everyone pitch in and share a little pain to prevent any single member from suffering a great deal, as demonstrated by Barry Waymiller’s no-layoff policy.

8. Volunteer to Aid Colleagues

If you are in a position to do so, volunteer to take on a greater share of a burden (e.g., more time off without pay) to help colleagues who may be less able to afford the impact, fostering mutual aid and safety.

9. Build a Safe Organizational Bus

Prioritize building a safe organizational ‘bus’ (business model) and ensure leaders know how to ‘drive’ it safely, so that anyone invited to join the organization feels secure and cared for.

10. Justify Not Caring for People

Instead of asking how you can afford to care for people, challenge yourself to justify not caring for them, recognizing that caring for your team is not a cost but a fundamental aspect of successful leadership.

11. Cooperate Against Shared Challenges

Recognize that in the face of difficult conditions or a harsh natural world, helping each other overcome difficulties leads to better outcomes for everyone, rather than individual competition.

12. Expect Goodness in Crises

During tough times and disasters, expect people to come together and help one another, as research shows these situations often bring out the best in human nature, increasing acts of charity, volunteering, and helping strangers.

13. Question Mind’s Happiness Assumptions

Be aware that your mind might be wrong or lying about what truly makes you happy, especially regarding cynical views of human nature; understanding the science of the mind can help redirect you towards genuine happiness.

14. Remove Cynical Biases

To perceive the inherent goodness in people, actively remove your ‘mud-colored glasses’ of cynicism and negative assumptions, rather than trying to force a positive view, as evidence supports human cooperation.