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Stop Looking for the Perfect Job - a "Good Enough Job" is Just Fine

Jan 23, 2023 31m 34s 10 insights
<p>We can put huge amounts of physical and emotional energy into our jobs - even basing our self-worth on our achievements at work and letting ourselves be defined by what we do. So have our careers taken over too much of our lives? </p> <p>Simone Stolzoff (author of <em>The Good Enough Job: Reclaiming Life from Work</em>) argues that we should stop hunting for the "perfect" job - that idealized career that will prove to others how smart, industrious or virtuous we are - and instead find an occupation that allows to us live happier and more rounded lives that don't revolve only around work. </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Re-evaluate Work Identity

Gently question the identity you derive from your job and renegotiate its role in your life, especially if it leads to stress, burnout, or covers up emptiness outside of work.

2. Diversify Identity & Meaning

Actively invest in non-work aspects of your life like relationships, spiritual life, family, or hobbies to create a diversified identity and multiple sources of meaning, making you more resilient and well-rounded.

3. Actively Pursue Non-Work Activities

Carve out time and actively engage in non-work pursuits, as acting yourself into better ways of thinking and doing things reinforces a diversified identity and meaning.

4. Define “Good Enough” Job

Subjectively define what a “good enough job” means for you (e.g., income, title, hours) and recognize it once achieved, then redirect energy from seeking a “perfect” job towards appreciating its role and investing in your life outside of work.

5. Create Non-Work Infrastructure

Establish intentional “sacred space” or “sacred time” for non-work activities by creating infrastructure (like joining a class or group) that structurally prevents you from working, ensuring dedicated time for other pursuits.

6. Embrace Play, Not Optimization

Counteract the tendency to optimize by embracing play (e.g., jamming, dancing, board games) that is grounded in present moment awareness and is an end in itself, rather than a means to future achievement or productivity.

7. Define Work Relationship

Proactively define your desired relationship with work, rather than letting your employer dictate it, to align work with your values and vision for a well-lived life outside of it.

8. Rest Before You Need It

Prioritize rest and a sustainable, balanced approach to work before you experience burnout, as this proactive strategy leads to greater long-term productivity and effectiveness.

9. Start Small, Non-Work Activities

When diversifying your identity or starting non-work activities, begin with small, manageable steps (e.g., a jog instead of a marathon) rather than over-optimizing or planning grand, long-term goals.

10. “Work Not Done, Time To Stop”

Adopt the mantra “The work is not done, but it is time to stop” to help set boundaries and conclude your workdays, especially when working for yourself or on personal projects with infinite capacity for more work.