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Psychopaths and Superheroes

Apr 27, 2020 29m 36s 14 insights
<p>We talk a lot about psychopaths - but rarely discuss their polar opposites, super altruists. These are people who go to extreme lengths to help others - even though their acts of kindness might cost them time, money or expose them to physical danger. These folk are also happier than the rest of us.</p><p>A super altruist once saved the life of psychology professor Abigail Marsh - so she devoted her career to understanding what drives these amazing and happy people and how we call all learn to be more like them.</p><p>For an even deeper dive into the research we talk about in the show visit <a href="https://www.happinesslab.fm/">happinesslab.fm</a></p><p> </p> Learn more about your ad-choices at <a href="https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com">https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com</a><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Help Others for Life’s Joy

To bring joy, meaning, and a sense of connectedness into your own life, actively help other people.

2. Prioritize Helping for Well-being

Understand that doing nice things for other people, even if costly, provides a significant boost to your well-being and is a key principle of human motivation for happiness.

3. Treat Others for Happiness

Spend money or resources on other people rather than on yourself, as scientific evidence indicates this leads to greater happiness.

4. Re-evaluate “Treat Yourself”

Question the common intuition that “treating yourself” is the best way to boost your mood, as there might be more powerful opportunities for happiness.

5. Question Mind’s Happiness Assumptions

Be aware that your mind might be wrong or ’lying’ to you about what will truly make you happy, and understanding the science of the mind can help redirect you.

6. Begin with Small Generous Acts

To cultivate extreme altruism and its associated well-being, start with smaller acts of generosity like donating blood, volunteering, or fostering, as these actions can build up to more significant giving.

7. Discover Joy in Helping

Engage in acts of kindness to experience the rewarding feelings of joy and happiness that come from helping others, which can reinforce and encourage further altruistic behavior.

8. Progress to Selfless Acts

Start with small acts of generosity and gradually progress to more significant, selfless acts, as these can lead to a huge and long-lasting boost in well-being.

9. Give Money, Time, Service

To have a happier day, give something to benefit another person, whether it’s a small amount of money, your time (e.g., letting someone cut in line, helping a neighbor), or a small service (e.g., rating a podcast).

10. Spend Small on Others

To improve your mood, spend even small amounts of money ($2-$5) to benefit other people.

11. Consciously Spend on Others

When you have extra money, consciously choose to spend it on others or donate to charity, rather than solely on yourself, as you will benefit more from this choice.

12. Boost Mood, Empathy via Kindness

Engage in kind actions not only to boost your own mood and happiness but also to make the recipient happier and contribute to a more empathic world.

13. Find Unique Ways to Help

Recognize that there are many ways to improve the lives of others, beyond extreme acts like organ donation, and identify your own methods to contribute.

14. Insight 14

When driving and an animal runs in front of your car, do not swerve to avoid hitting it, as this can lead to losing control of your car and a more dangerous accident.