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Malala on Burnout, Guilt and How to Disagree Better

Jul 11, 2022 30m 23s 12 insights
<p>Nobel Peace Prize winners feel burnout too. Malala Yousafzai - who survived an assassination attempted by the Taliban - works tirelessly so that more women and girls can access education. But she often feels guilty at taking time off, but knows she must to avoid burnout. </p> <p>She shares her tips with Dr Laurie Santos on how to achieve work/life balance; how to deal with disappointment; and how to build bridges with people we disagree with. </p> <p>(Recorded live at Yale's Silliman College.)  </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Defeat Extremism Through Education

The most effective way to counter extremism, hatred, and intolerance is through education, especially by educating more girls, as it fosters open-mindedness, knowledge, and enables people to make informed choices for a better world.

2. Align Actions with Values

As an activist or advocate, ensure your daily actions and how you live your life consistently reflect the messages you promote, such as forgiveness, kindness, justice, and fairness.

3. Prioritize Self-Recharge

Recognize that exhaustion hinders productivity and effectiveness; therefore, prioritize taking breaks and recharging yourself to maintain your mission and activism.

4. Embrace Learning & Leadership

Young people should prioritize their own learning and expertise, continue their education, and learn from others, envisioning themselves as future decision-makers, CEOs, prime ministers, and presidents to make impactful decisions.

5. Become an Ally for Women

Men and boys should actively become allies for women in their lives (sisters, mothers, wives, colleagues, friends) by not hindering their progress, giving them space, and stepping up to challenge sexism or discrimination, as their voices are powerful among other men.

6. Engage with Local Activists

To create positive change and impact, especially from an external perspective, support local activists and organizations, and engage with local community members and civil society to understand specific needs and gaps.

7. Hold Leaders Accountable

Utilize your power to vote, then actively hold elected officials accountable by writing to them, pressuring them, and asking what actions they are taking on critical issues like refugee support.

8. Cultivate Open-mindedness

Be open to more and new ideas, and strive to understand different perspectives, even if you don’t fully agree, as this approach can reveal common ground and lead to shared solutions.

9. Change Minds Through Experience

To change people’s minds or perspectives, recognize that direct conversation is often less effective than shared experiences and time spent together, which can profoundly shift viewpoints.

10. Reflect on Adversity for Growth

When faced with adversity, consciously ask yourself what lessons it can teach you and how you can grow from the challenging experience.

11. Remind Yourself of Successes

When feeling frustrated or experiencing burnout, actively remind yourself of past positives and successes achieved to regain hope, optimism, and motivation.

12. Take Breaks for Fun

Combat guilt about taking breaks by engaging in activities like spending time with friends or a partner, playing sports, or watching comedy shows (e.g., Ted Lasso) to distract yourself, refresh your mind, and return to your mission with a new perspective.