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Make Vulnerability Your Superpower (with NBA star Kevin Love)

Oct 20, 2025 37m 7s 16 insights
<p>Not many elite athletes talk openly about mental health, but five-time NBA All-Star Kevin Love is changing that. After a very public panic attack on the basketball court he was told to "snap out of it". But Kevin decided to discuss his "dark moments" of anxiety and depression and show that vulnerability is actually a strength.&nbsp;</p> <p>The sports star joins Dr. Laurie to talk about overcoming generational trauma, the pressures of toxic masculinity, and how speaking up can change the game for all of us.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Seek Professional Mental Health Support

When struggling with mental health, actively seek professional therapy, as it was a turning point for Kevin Love and helped him “start doing the work” to heal and understand his experiences.

2. Model Vulnerability as a Leader

If you are a teacher, coach, parent, or leader, it’s vital to model vulnerability to those who look up to you, as this helps open conversations and breaks the cycle of silence around mental health.

3. Practice Self-Compassion & Grace

Avoid withholding compassion and grace for yourself when facing struggles, as nobody benefits from this self-criticism and it’s essential for healing.

4. Prioritize Eulogy Virtues

Shift your focus from “legacy virtues” (achievements) to “eulogy virtues” (how you made people feel, your relationships, and impact on others) for a more meaningful and authentic life.

5. Break Silence on Mental Struggles

Do not struggle in silence or in the shadows; speaking up about your mental health challenges can lead to profound personal change and empower you to help others.

6. Address Unprocessed Emotions Directly

Unprocessed grief, anxiety, or other emotional struggles will eventually manifest in physical or psychological ways, so it’s crucial to unpack and face these feelings head-on.

7. Don’t Tie Identity to Performance

Avoid building your entire identity around performance or achievements, as this can lead to dread and devastating impacts when faced with failure or setbacks.

8. Advocate Mental Health Education

Support the integration of mental health education into school curriculums from a young age, just as physical and sexual health are taught, to provide early intervention and language for emotions.

9. Be a Compassionate Sounding Board

Recognize that everyone is going through something unseen, so allow yourself to be a compassionate listener for others and pay it forward by using your voice to support them.

10. Embrace Vulnerability as Strength

View vulnerability not as a weakness but as a superpower and a source of strength that empowers you to be authentic and help others by opening up.

11. Allow for Rest and Breaks

Prioritize rest days, getting sun and vitamin D, and spending time with family to “play the long game” and maintain physical and mental well-being in demanding environments.

12. Use Exercise Mindfully

While exercise is beneficial for mental health, ensure it’s not driven by perfectionism or used as a way to avoid deeper emotional issues and trauma.

13. Reconcile & Forgive Trauma

Work towards reconciliation and forgiveness within your family to address generational trauma, as facing these memories can lead to peace and understanding.

14. Get a Pet for Well-being

Consider getting a dog, as they provide unconditional love, encourage outdoor activity, and are beneficial for mental health and happiness.

15. Share Story in Your Own Words

If you choose to share your personal struggles, ensure it is done in your own words to maintain control over your narrative and prevent others from misrepresenting your experience.

16. Don’t Dismiss Mental Health Issues

Avoid telling people to simply “snap out of” mental health struggles, as this demonstrates a lack of understanding of how complex these issues truly are and can be dismissive.