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Laurie's Personal Tips

Apr 9, 2020 35m 52s 28 insights
<p>Many people seek Laurie's advice on how to be happier despite this awful pandemic. Prof Katy Milkman invited Laurie to appear on the Choiceology podcast to talk about the things she is doing personally to optimise her happiness amid the fear and stress. We thought we'd share Katy's interview with you so you can hear Laurie on the other side of the microphone for a change.</p><p>(Choiceology is an original podcast from Charles Schwab. Dr Laurie Santos and The Happiness Lab are not affiliated with Schwab and the views expressed may not necessarily reflect those of The Charles Schwab Corporation or its affiliates.)</p><p> </p> Learn more about your ad-choices at <a href="https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com">https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com</a><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Social Connections

Intentionally maintain social connections using technology (phone, FaceTime, Zoom) to combat loneliness and social isolation, which can tank immune function, especially during stressful times.

2. Practice Daily Gratitude

Practice the ’three gratitudes exercise’ daily by writing down three to five things you are grateful for, even small ones, to significantly boost your mood and overall well-being.

3. Engage in Pro-Social Behavior

Engage in pro-social behavior by finding ways to contribute and be generous to others, as this ‘other-oriented’ approach boosts personal well-being more effectively than self-care.

4. Maintain Exercise Intentionally

Be intentional about maintaining your exercise routine, even if it means adapting to new situations like being home, as it is crucial for both physical and mental health, including immune function and mood.

5. Practice Deep Belly Breathing

Practice deep belly breathing for two to three minutes to activate your parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest system), counteracting the ‘fight or flight’ response and reducing stress hormones.

6. Meditate Daily for Focus

Meditate for a few minutes daily to train your brain to focus on what you want (e.g., your breath or a mantra), which can increase concentration, regulate emotions, and decrease anxiety and depression.

7. Prioritize Intentional Sleep

Prioritize sleep by being intentional and forming new habits, recognizing its critical role in mental health and immune function, especially during stressful times.

8. Practice Self-Compassion

Practice self-compassion by acknowledging that it’s okay to feel bad during difficult times and to give yourself and your family members more understanding and benefit of the doubt.

9. Replicate Social Interactions Virtually

Replicate pre-crisis informal social interactions using technology, such as virtual water cooler meetings, family dinners with remote guests, or online shared activities, to maintain vital social ties.

10. Leverage Fresh Starts for Habits

Leverage ‘fresh starts’ like social isolation or sheltering in place as opportunities to establish new, beneficial habits (e.g., a morning cardio routine) by treating these new situations as temporal boundaries.

11. Combine Exercise and Socializing

Combine exercise and social connection by working out with friends virtually (e.g., sharing an online yoga class over Zoom), which boosts well-being and acts as a commitment device.

12. Use Social Commitment

Use social commitment as a device to ensure follow-through on new habits, such as agreeing to meet a friend for an online class, making you more likely to stick to it.

13. Find Purpose in Helping

Find meaning and curb existential anxiety during the crisis by actively focusing on your purpose to help others and make their lives better.

14. Utilize Time for Altruism

Utilize any ’time windfall’ (e.g., saved commute time) to help others, such as calling people in need, doing chores for them, or writing gratitude letters for healthcare workers, to boost your own well-being.

15. Use Savings for Others

Use any ‘financial windfall’ (e.g., money saved from not buying daily coffee) to help others, such as buying groceries for someone in need or gift cards for local businesses, creating a win-win situation for your well-being and community support.

16. Seek Out Kindness Stories

Intentionally seek out stories of human kindness and compassion, such as by searching for #COVIDkindness on social media, to counteract negative news and realize that people come together in crises.

17. Start Meditation with One Minute

Begin your meditation practice with just one minute of focused breathing, as even this short duration can be powerful and makes the habit more accessible for beginners.

18. Utilize Beginner Meditation Resources

For beginners, start meditation with resources like ‘beginner mindfulness-based stress reduction’ guides, apps like Calm or Headspace, or by simply Googling ‘beginner mindfulness-based meditation’.

19. Practice Loving Kindness Meditation

Practice loving kindness (metta) meditation by thinking of people and wishing them well with phrases like ‘May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be free from harm,’ to cultivate compassion and engage with suffering without burnout.

20. Mindfully Assess Media Impact

Be mindful and self-aware when checking social media or news; pay attention to how it makes you feel and if it spikes anxiety unnecessarily, recognize it as unhelpful.

21. Implement Social Media Moratorium

Implement a ‘social media moratorium’ after a certain time (e.g., 6 p.m.) and physically remove your phone from your immediate vicinity, especially before bed, to reduce anxiety and improve sleep.

22. Read Physical Books Before Bed

Replace screen time before bed with physical books to avoid the urge to check social media, which helps reduce anxiety and promotes better sleep.

23. Limit News Consumption

Limit news and social media consumption to a single, brief check (e.g., half an hour in the morning) to stay informed without becoming overwhelmed or unnecessarily anxious.

24. Replace Social Media with Connection

Replace the habit of checking social media with a more positive alternative behavior, such as texting a friend or family member, to transform an anxious cue into a social connection opportunity.

25. Prepare Alternative Behaviors

When trying to break a habit, ensure you have an appealing alternative behavior ready to slot in, making it easier to replace the old habit with a new, beneficial one.

26. Channel Thwarted Altruism

When unable to directly help someone you care about (thwarted altruism), channel that urge into other forms of altruism, such as donating to a good cause or checking in on an elderly neighbor.

27. Remember Crises Are Temporary

If facing personal crises like job loss or illness, promote resilience by reminding yourself that the awful situation is temporary and that people often report growth after overcoming difficult life circumstances.

28. Practice Future-Oriented Processing

Practice ‘future-oriented processing’ by imagining yourself a year from now, having successfully dealt with a current setback (e.g., job loss), to gain a meta-view and realize things will eventually be okay.