← The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

How to Lead the Richest Life Possible

Feb 17, 2025 38m 3s 18 insights
<p>To improve your life you might decide to prioritize your own personal happiness, or find meaning in helping the people around you. Few of us consider pushing ourselves well beyond our comfort zones. It might take a lot of effort and risks pain or disappointment.&nbsp; &nbsp;</p> <p>University of Chicago professor Shige Oishi thinks to live fully we all need to push ourselves to find "psychological richness". He tells Dr Laurie that we should look for daily opportunities to explore, get lost, mess around and have random encounters that challenge our routines and expectations.&nbsp; &nbsp;</p> <p>Read more about Shige's work in&nbsp;<em><a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/740022/life-in-three-dimensions-by-shigehiro-oishi-phd/">Life in Three Dimensions: How Curiosity, Exploration and Experience Make a Fuller, Better Life</a>.</em></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Playfulness

Cultivate a childlike curiosity and sense of fun by taking breaks from daily obligations and responsibilities, as playfulness is a huge part of leading a psychologically rich life and can protect against burnout.

2. Embrace Serendipity & Spontaneity

Actively seek and be open to random moments and spontaneous encounters, as they are a springboard for interesting experiences and psychological richness, even if it means being a little pushy and accepting rejections.

3. Experience Richness by Proxy

Expand your horizons and experience different lives vicariously by immersing yourself in novels, movies, art, and other aesthetic experiences, which allows for mental transportation and dramatic emotional experiences hard to achieve in person.

4. Explore and Deviate

Introduce variety into your daily life by exploring new things, such as changing your commute, getting lost in a new town, or simply taking a different route, embracing the mindset of letting yourself go and deviating from schedules when possible.

5. Transform Adversity into Richness

Reframe disappointments, setbacks, and even everyday failures as opportunities for psychological richness by learning from them, identifying positive lessons, and seeing how they change your perspective, ultimately adding texture to your life story.

6. Adopt Richness Mindset

Cultivate a ‘richness mindset’ to become less afraid of negative emotions or events, accepting them and learning from them to avoid rumination and depression, and becoming more adventurous.

7. Embrace Uncertainty

Embrace uncertainty and unpredictability as inherent parts of life, as this attitude maximizes the possibility of adding psychological richness to your experiences and prevents rumination when things don’t go perfectly.

8. Avoid Over-Scheduling Life

Resist the urge to over-schedule every aspect of your life, as this deprives you of spontaneous encounters, conversations, and readings that are crucial for psychological richness.

9. Maintain Wide Curiosity

Keep your curiosity wide open and avoid specializing too early, as an open mindset allows you to find interesting connections, prevents burnout, and fosters major discoveries in professional arenas.

10. Release Pressure to Be Happy

Avoid the cultural pressure to always feel and express happiness, especially when not genuinely happy, to prevent rumination and potential depression, and to naturally accept minor bumps in life.

11. Avoid Happiness-Success Trap

Do not equate happiness with success, as this mindset can lead to feeling like a failure when not happy, which is an unfortunate and dangerous trap that fosters rumination.

12. Broaden Meaningful Impact

When seeking a meaningful life, avoid focusing too narrowly on the well-being of only close others, as this can lead to antagonism towards out-group members and limit your impact.

13. Find Novelty in Familiarity

If hesitant to try completely new things, delve deeper into your favorite familiar objects, music, literature, or even conversations with familiar people to discover new aspects and enrich your experience.

14. Find Open-Minded Friends

Seek out friends who are open to new experiences and will encourage you to try unfamiliar things, as they can be a conduit to psychological richness by dragging you to interesting experiences.

15. Be Agreeable to New Things

If you have friends who suggest new activities, be agreeable and try them, even if you wouldn’t initiate them yourself, to expand your experiences and foster psychological richness.

16. Vary Your Commute

Introduce novelty into your routine by changing your commute; drive through different neighborhoods or get off the train at an unfamiliar stop to explore, even with a packed schedule.

17. Learn From Everyday Failures

Actively try to construe something positive or identify a lesson learned from everyday failures and negative events, as this adds texture and enriches your life by changing your perspective.

18. Find Humanity in Adversity

Adversity can reveal unexpected pro-social and altruistic behaviors in others, leading to a regained sense of confidence in humanity, which contributes to psychological richness.