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How to Find Hope in a Cynical World

Sep 9, 2024 43m 6s 7 insights
<p>It’s hard to stay hopeful these days. Stanford professor Jamil Zaki has been studying the incredible depth of human kindness for decades, but even he gives in to cynicism when he doubts our ability to be civil and cooperative. </p> <p>That’s a shame - because shedding cynicism and grasping hope will make you happier and healthier. Jamil and Dr Laurie Santos look at the scientific evidence showing that we should be more trusting of other people and optimistic about our facility to work together. </p> <p>Jamil's book <em>Hope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness </em>is out now.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Hopeful Skepticism

Cultivate hope by believing that positive change is possible through your actions, rather than succumbing to passive optimism or cynical hopelessness. Combine this with skepticism, testing your assumptions about people to uncover their inherent goodness, which is often underestimated due to negativity bias.

2. Recognize Cynicism’s Harm

Understand that cynicism is a ‘disease of social health’ that leads to personal unhappiness, physical illness, damaged relationships, and societal stagnation. It also creates self-fulfilling prophecies where mistrust brings out the worst in others.

3. Challenge Cynicism Myths

Dispel the common misconceptions that cynicism is smart, keeps you safe, or is moral. Recognize that cynicism actually hinders cognitive performance, isolates you from positive connections, and prevents collective action against societal problems.

4. Fact-Check Cynical Thoughts

When uncharitable thoughts about people arise, pause and critically examine the evidence supporting them, treating them as scientific hypotheses. This practice, drawn from cognitive behavioral therapy, helps challenge and reduce your own cynical feelings.

5. Adopt a Reciprocity Mindset

Understand your influential power over others, recognizing that treating people with trust encourages them to act more trustworthy, while mistrust can elicit selfish behavior. Wield this power responsibly by treating others as you wish to be treated, fostering virtuous cycles.

6. Take Small Leaps of Faith

Intentionally take calculated risks by trusting others in situations where you’d normally be guarded, such as delegating a challenging task or opening up about a personal struggle. This provides real-world data to update cynical beliefs, strengthens relationships, and fosters a more connected life.

7. Practice Social Savoring

Actively look for and share positive examples of people’s actions with others, especially children, to counter cynical narratives and train your own mind to notice more goodness in the world. This ‘positive gossip’ helps both you and others plug into a more positive view of humanity.