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How Dogs Changed my Life (with The Dogist)

Jun 16, 2025 35m 29s 21 insights
<p>We all have our own ways of coping - especially when things get tough. So for the next few shows we're going to talking to people with interesting coping strategies. And we start with Elias Weiss Friedman, aka <a href="https://www.instagram.com/thedogist/?hl=en"><em>The Dogist.</em></a></p> <p>Throughout his life, Elias has found comfort in dogs. And when he got fired from his job, dogs came to the rescue again - they helped him forge a new career as a photographer and a social media star.&nbsp;</p> <p>Elias discusses his journey and what he thinks dogs can teach us about being our best selves. And for more stories, check out his new book <a href="https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/750870/this-dog-will-change-your-life-by-elias-weiss-friedman-with-ben-greenman/"><em>This Dog Will Change Your Life</em></a>.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Happiness Fundamentals for Coping

To cope and find happiness, regardless of dog ownership, prioritize getting outside and active, embracing goofiness and vulnerability, finding new ways to play, practicing presence, and enthusiastically engaging with people around you.

2. Embrace Authenticity & Less Self-Consciousness

Observe and emulate dogs’ candidness and freedom in expressing emotions without worrying about perception, allowing yourself to be more authentic and less self-conscious.

3. Prioritize Present Happiness

When facing difficult times or feeling unhappy, consider prioritizing present happiness and making changes (like getting a dog) rather than delaying joy.

4. Facilitate Authentic Conversation

Engage with people by showing genuine interest, asking questions, and actively listening to their stories, especially about topics they love (like their pets), as people are often ‘starved’ for in-person connection and the chance to share authentically.

5. Find Common Ground to Bridge Divides

Actively seek common ground, such as a shared love for dogs, to bridge political or social divides and foster understanding, reminding us not to be at odds with each other.

6. Disruptive Pursuit of Passion

To find success in something you love, be willing to be disruptive and not listen to others’ doubts, especially if your passion seems ‘silly’ on the surface.

7. Align Career with Purpose

When facing a career change or job loss, reflect on what your ‘soul wants’ and pursue passions (like hanging out with dogs) rather than just finding a similar job, as this can lead to purpose and celebration.

8. Pursue Niche Interests

If you find something cool, pursue it (your ‘Smurf blog’), because many others will likely find it cool too, increasing your chances of success and connection.

9. Responsible Dog Adoption Protocol

Before getting a dog, thoroughly research ownership requirements, assess your readiness and financial capability, and consider fostering from a rescue group to test compatibility and alleviate shelter overcrowding. Avoid impulsive decisions, especially for specific breeds, and prioritize adopting adult mutts from shelters for established temperaments and a unique, special bond.

10. Dogs for Physical Activity

Get a dog to improve physical health by ensuring you get outside, walk, and move regularly, as dogs get you out of the apartment and walking.

11. Establish Daily Rituals

Incorporate daily rituals, like dog walks, to regulate circadian rhythms, get sunlight, and establish neighborhood relationships, which provides structure and social connection.

12. Dogs as Social Lubricants

Get a dog to expand your social circle beyond immediate neighbors, as dogs act as ‘furry icebreakers’ that catalyze conversations and help you meet more people in your neighborhood daily.

13. Leverage Indirect Vulnerability

Engage in conversations about a shared passion (like dogs) to indirectly foster deeper, more vulnerable discussions about yourself, as this can make it easier to share ‘messy’ or humorous aspects of your life.

14. Seek Unconditional Positive Regard

Cultivate relationships or environments where you receive consistent, unconditional positive regard, as this can be incredibly soothing and comforting, helping to wash away daily anxieties.

15. Seek Empathetic Connection

Seek out empathetic connections, whether with pets or people, as they can intuitively sense your emotional state, provide love when needed, and help you cope with difficulties.

16. Overcome Shyness Through Proxy

If you are shy, engage with entities (like dogs) that model fearlessness and lack of self-consciousness, as this can help you, by proxy, become less shy and more social.

17. Consider Service/Therapy Animals for Trauma

For individuals dealing with PTSD, trauma, or social re-integration challenges, consider the profound benefits of service or therapy animals, as they can help with specific symptoms like nightmare interruption and facilitate a return to normal functioning and social engagement.

18. Express through Creative Outlets

If you’re shy, find creative ways to express your true self, like speaking on behalf of a pet, as this can help you relax and be liked more.

19. Appreciate Dog Connection

Actively appreciate the unconditional love, eye contact, and presence dogs offer, as this interaction provides a dopamine and oxytocin hit, fostering a sense of being in the moment and pure love.

20. Share Liberally About Passions

When talking about things you are passionate about (like pets), feel liberated to share every detail, as this can lead to freeing, fun, and authentic connections with others.

21. Start a Napkin Collection

Consider starting a napkin collection, as advocated by the host, as a simple hobby that can bring unexpected joy or interest.