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Happiness Lessons of The Ancients: Sikhism and Daily Habits

Apr 3, 2023 31m 2s 10 insights
<p>Following 9/11, Simran Jeet Singh's Sikh family in Texas was subjected to extreme racist abuse. And yet, Simran's father chose to look on the bright side and offer thanks instead for the acts of kindness friends and neighbors showed them. How was such optimism possible?</p> <p>Simran - author of <em>The Light We Give: How Sikh Wisdom Can Transform Your Life - </em>explains how practicing positive habits and living by our values as often as we can will really help when a crisis arises.  </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Practice Values Daily

Commit to putting your values into action day in and day out until they become second nature, building resilience to respond well when hardship inevitably comes, allowing you to claim agency and reflect your values.

2. Live In Present Moment

Focus on living in the present moment, taking seriously what you experience right now, as this is the greatest way to find happiness, rather than planning for happiness in the distant future.

3. Audit Actual Priorities

Conduct an ‘alien observer’ exercise by imagining an alien watching you for a day, observing how you spend your time and what your headspace is, to reveal your actual priorities and recalibrate your life.

4. Eliminate Detracting Practices

Actively eliminate or ‘set fire’ to practices, rituals, or habits that take you away from your goals or core values, such as love, even if it means stepping away from addictive behaviors for a period.

5. Cultivate Child Generosity

Cultivate generosity in children by having them keep only one or two birthday presents and donate the rest, or by allowing them to choose charities to donate to, as generosity is a real driver of happiness.

6. Serve Others Selflessly

When serving others, prioritize their needs and comfort, showing up for them in a way that meets the urgency of the moment without making it about your own desire to feel good.

7. See Strangers’ Humanity

Implement a daily practice of taking ten seconds to observe strangers and see their humanity, fostering a sense of familiarity and moving beyond feelings of strangeness.

8. Engage Hate Constructively

When experiencing hate or discrimination, choose to engage with the person by seeing their humanity (e.g., like a student), sharing why their words are hurtful, to potentially educate them and reclaim your agency.

9. Embrace Your Inner Light

Acknowledge that the ’light’ of inherent value and the capacity to challenge darkness resides within you, and actively work to see, recognize, and embrace this inner light.

10. Be A Small Light

Contribute to challenging darkness through your actions, even if they seem small, understanding that your individual effort can inspire others to act and collectively create a positive impact.