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Hack Your Emotions

Jan 20, 2025 46m 55s 6 insights
<p>Negative emotions like fear or anger are part of being human. These feelings tell us something - perhaps prompting us to take action or bring about change. However, they're powerful and disruptive - and if they hang around too long or are too intense, they can take a huge toll on our happiness and wellbeing. We need to shift them... but how?</p> <p>Psychologist Ethan Kross knows.</p> <p>He's the author of <a href="https://www.ethankross.com/">Shift: Managing Your Emotions So <em>They</em> Don't Manage You </a>and founder of the Emotion and Self Control Lab at the University of Michigan - and shares his top science-backed tips to rein in feelings like sorrow, disappointment or rage.&nbsp;</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Understand Emotion’s Function

Recognize that all emotions are functional signals prompting you to take action or understand a situation. Once you’ve understood what the emotion is trying to teach you, allow it to dissipate rather than dwelling on it.

2. Shift Mood with Senses

Actively use sensory input like music, touch, visuals, and smell to alter your emotional state. For example, if feeling sad, listen to ‘pump-up’ music that is incongruent with your mood, or use comforting self-touch like a cozy blanket.

3. Regulate with Strategic Attention

Manage your attention by using positive, cognitively demanding distractions (e.g., puzzles like Wordle) to create space from intense emotions. Avoid chronic avoidance, but also don’t dwell on difficult experiences; instead, focus on things within your control.

4. Gain Perspective on Problems

Reframe how you think about your circumstances by taking a step back. Use distanced self-talk (e.g., ‘Why are you doing this, Ethan?’) or mental time travel (e.g., how will you feel next year, or how did past figures overcome adversity?) to gain a more objective viewpoint.

5. Optimize Your Physical Space

Modify your physical environment to support emotional regulation by getting physical distance from what’s upsetting you, or by proactively identifying and using ‘safe spaces’ with restorative properties. You can also decorate your immediate surroundings with pictures of loved ones or plants for calming effects, and remove distractors or temptations.

6. Influence Emotions Socially

Leverage emotional contagion by being aware that your emotional tone impacts others, especially as a leader. Model the positive emotions you want to see in a group, and address negative emotional influences early to shape a supportive social environment.