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Does the You of Today Hate the You of Tomorrow?

Jul 1, 2024 28m 15s 10 insights
<p>We often do things now that will make our lives more difficult or stressful in the future. We spend money, when we should save. We eat junk food, when we should exercise. We agree to commitments, when we should protect our free time. We act so thoughtlessly that it's almost like we hate our future selves. </p> <p>Dr Laurie asks UCLA's Hal Hershfield to help her find the happiness balance between listening to what she wants now, and the preferences she might have in the future. And she steps into an AI time machine to get some happiness advice for herself decades from today. </p> <p>Try talking to the "you of tomorrow" using the MIT Media Lab's <em>Future You </em>chatbot at <a href="https://futureyou.media.mit.edu/">https://futureyou.media.mit.edu/</a></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Chat with AI Future Self

Engage in a written conversation with an AI chatbot designed to simulate your future self, like the MIT Media Lab’s ‘Future You.’ This provides personalized suggestions and motivates you to adopt positive habits and cherish what truly matters, based on a lifelike interaction.

2. Visualize Your Older Self

Use virtual reality or aging apps (e.g., Snapchat’s time machine filter) to see a realistic version of your older face. This vivid interaction can lead to more future-oriented choices, such as increased saving or investment, by putting you in the mindset of your future self.

3. Write a Letter to Future Self

Pen a short note to your future self about an upcoming decision or current life perspective. This practice forces you to take your future self’s perspective, encouraging better treatment and more future-oriented behaviors like increased exercise.

4. Adopt ‘Now and Later’ Mindset

Consciously shift your thinking to consider how actions can benefit both your present and future self simultaneously, rather than viewing them as competing interests. This mindset helps you make decisions that foster overall happiness and well-being across time.

5. Strive for Present-Future Balance

Actively seek ways to balance immediate gratification with long-term goals, such as spending less time on work to nurture relationships or investing in experiences now that you’ll fondly remember later. This approach ensures you are truly kind to your future self by allowing happiness in both the present and future.

6. Stop Delaying Positive Experiences

Avoid putting off enjoyable activities, using special items, or nurturing friendships by waiting for the ‘perfect’ moment, as this time may never arrive. This ensures you savor life’s positive moments and maintain important relationships, preventing future regret over missed opportunities.

7. Re-evaluate Productivity vs. Presence

Question whether constant ‘productive’ actions (e.g., checking emails during family time) are truly what your future self will value, or if being fully present in meaningful moments would be more cherished. This helps shift focus from relentless efficiency to creating valuable memories and experiences.

8. Avoid ‘Yes Damn Effect’

Before committing to future obligations, consider what your future self would genuinely want to do, rather than automatically saying ‘yes’ in the present moment. This prevents chronic overcommitment and future regret, leading to a happier, less stressed future self.

9. Combat Extreme Farsightedness (Hyperopia)

Recognize and actively counter the tendency to be excessively future-oriented, which can ironically make life worse in both the present and the future. This awareness prevents you from sacrificing current happiness for an imagined future benefit that may not materialize or be appreciated.

10. Internalize Future Self Perspective

After using tools like AI chatbots or letter writing, practice simulating conversations or reflections with your future self internally. This develops a continuous ability to consider your future self’s desires without constant reliance on external technology.