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Do We Need a New Word for 'Happiness'? Katie Couric talks to Dr Laurie Santos

Apr 10, 2023 35m 13s 17 insights
<p>Laurie swaps seats in the studio to be interviewed by none other than Katie Couric. In this episode of <em>Next Question with Katie</em> Couric, Laurie's asked to define happiness; outline the best steps to reach it; and give an honest appraisal of her own struggles to flourish each and every day. </p> <p>Listen to more episodes of <em>Next Question with Katie</em> Couric wherever you get your podcasts. </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Challenges & Failure

Understand that true flourishing involves taking on challenges, embracing failure, and navigating negative emotions, rather than expecting constant happiness.

2. Actively Work on Happiness

Recognize that while there’s a genetic predisposition to happiness, everyone can put in the right work to change and improve their happiness levels.

3. Practice Kindness for Happiness

Engage in doing nice things for other people, as this is a cross-cultural universal in happiness science proven to make you happier.

4. Prioritize Helping Others

Shift focus from self-care and wellness towards doing for others, as data suggests this leads to greater happiness.

5. Serve Others for Fulfillment

Translate personal experiences, even traumatic ones, into a form of service to others, as this can be very grounding, satisfying, and fulfilling.

6. Adopt a Journey Mindset

Focus on what you learn and gain along the way, rather than solely on the final destination or next accolade, by being present throughout the journey.

7. Appreciate Your Accomplishments

Avoid constantly striving for the next thing; instead, pause to reflect on and appreciate the accomplishments you’ve already achieved.

8. Parents: Reduce Academic Pressure

Parents should work with their kids to scale back academic pressure, emphasize learning along the journey, assure unconditional love, and avoid pushing them solely for accolades.

9. Challenge Happiness Intuitions

Recognize that your natural intuitions about what makes you happy are often wrong, and science suggests doing something different.

10. Choose Active, Social Leisure

After a long day, instead of passive activities, engage in more challenging forms of leisure such as calling a friend, going for a walk, or learning something new, becoming more other-oriented.

11. Stress-Reducing Behaviors

When feeling stressed, engage in behaviors like moving your body, contacting a friend, getting sleep, taking a walk, or thinking about what you can do for someone else, as these are effective in the moment.

12. Change Negative Self-Talk

Actively work to change negative thought patterns and shut off the self-critic in your head, as what you say to yourself affects performance and physiology.

13. Talk to Yourself Like a Friend

When facing personal shortcomings, talk to yourself with the same gentle, proactive, problem-solving, and curious tone you would use with a friend.

14. Focus on What’s Controllable

Concentrate your energy and efforts on things that are within your control, as this approach leads to better outcomes and well-being.

15. Mindful Social Media Use

Be more mindful about how social media and digital devices are making you feel, rather than denying their benefits or blindly using them.

16. Use WWW for Phone Mindfulness

Whenever you find your phone in your hand, use the ‘WWW’ acronym (What For, Why Now, What Else) to be more mindful of your usage, its triggers, and the opportunity costs.

17. Donate to Charity

If you have income, donate more of your money to charity, as people who do so tend to be happier.