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Caring What You're Sharing

Oct 15, 2019 38m 1s 7 insights
<p>Sharing a good experience with another human deepens our enjoyment of the moment... but only if we abide by certain rules. Dr Laurie Santos shows us how we often get 'sharing' wrong and explains how we can all derive more happiness from ice cream, sunsets and a night in front of the TV.</p><p>For an even deeper dive into the research we talk about in the show visit <a href="https://www.happinesslab.fm/">happinesslab.fm</a></p><p> </p> Learn more about your ad-choices at <a href="https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com">https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com</a><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Live Sharing

Actively seek out and engage in experiences with others, such as eating lunch with a friend or going to the cinema. Science shows that sharing experiences in the moment intensifies positive feelings and makes negative ones more bearable, fostering connection and happiness.

2. Be Present in Shared Moments

Be fully present when sharing an experience with someone, actively avoiding distractions like your phone. Distractions can negatively affect the other person’s experience and diminish the quality of the shared moment for both.

3. Avoid Social Media Photo-Taking

Refrain from taking photos with the primary intent of immediately sharing them on social media. This mindset pulls you out of the moment, focusing on curating an image rather than genuinely experiencing it, thereby decreasing enjoyment.

4. Capture Photos for Personal Memory

Take photos to enhance your personal visual memory and immersion in an experience, rather than for immediate sharing. This practice makes you pay more attention to visual details, boosting visual memory and increasing enjoyment of the experience itself.

5. Mind Photo-Taking’s Cognitive Trade-offs

Consider your memory goals before taking photos, as it consumes cognitive bandwidth. Photo-taking enhances visual memory but can hinder the recall of non-visual details like conversations or tastes.

6. Cultivate Connection Opportunities

Seek out or create “safe” and “accessible” environments or activities that naturally foster social interaction. Such settings can help overcome social anxieties and facilitate genuine conversations and bonding with others.

7. Implement Phone-Free Experiences

Intentionally design or participate in activities where phones are put away or prohibited for a period. Removing phones allows for deeper immersion in the experience and prevents missing subtle details and genuine interactions.