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Calm Can Be Contagious

Mar 26, 2020 39m 1s 21 insights
<p>In normal times our minds can be filled with unhelpful thoughts, but during this crisis you might be finding it even harder to calm your anxious internal monologue. Meditation could be helpful.</p><p>Dan Harris (host of the Ten Percent Happier podcast) had a panic attack while reading the news live on ABC - and found that meditating brought him a calm he'd never previously known. He tells Dr Laurie Santos how we can all use simple meditations to help us and our families during the pandemic.</p><p>The show includes a guided meditation from Dr Santos.</p><p> </p> Learn more about your ad-choices at <a href="https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com">https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com</a><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Practice Meditation to Quiet Mind

Engage in the practice of meditation to quiet a racing mind and keep ruminative thoughts under control, as it’s an effective, free, and scientifically supported method.

2. Recognize Inner Voice’s Impact

Become aware of the constant ‘voice in your head’ that drives rumination, judgment, and future/past thinking, as recognizing its influence is a crucial first step to managing it.

3. Boost Self-Awareness Through Meditation

Use breath-focused meditation to boost self-awareness and gain visibility into anxiety loops and thought patterns, which allows you to see them clearly and reduces their power over you.

4. Practice Breath-Focused Meditation

To meditate, sit comfortably and focus on the sensation of your breath coming in and going out; when your mind inevitably wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breath and start again.

5. Use RAIN for Difficult Emotions

When experiencing difficult emotions, use the RAIN protocol: Recognize what’s happening, Allow it to be present without fighting or feeding it, Investigate how it manifests in your body non-judgmentally, and Nurture a friendly, compassionate attitude towards the emotion.

6. Practice Loving Kindness Meditation

Engage in loving kindness meditation by picturing a series of individuals (yourself, a friend, a neutral person, a difficult person, then everyone) and silently repeating the phrases: ‘May you be happy. May you be safe. May you be healthy. May you live with ease.’

7. Cultivate Skill with Inner Voice

View meditation as a skill to develop a different, more balanced relationship with your inner monologue, understanding that improvement and resilience compound over time.

8. Start Meditation with One Minute

Begin your meditation practice with just one minute, as even this short duration provides real benefits and can serve as a stepping stone to a deeper practice over time.

9. Combine Formal and Informal Mindfulness

While on-the-go mindfulness is beneficial, also engage in formal meditation practice, even if just for a minute or five minutes, as it can significantly enhance and ’turbo charge’ your daily mindfulness.

10. Practice On-the-Go Mindfulness

Integrate mindfulness into daily activities by paying full attention to them, such as washing dishes or hands, to cultivate presence and awareness throughout your day.

11. Mindful Hand Washing Practice

During routine activities like washing hands, focus on the sensory details (water temperature, soap texture, sounds, sights) and gently return your attention to these sensations whenever your mind wanders.

12. Meditate Before Bed for Sleep

Meditate before bed to calm your mind and break repetitive inner thought loops, which can help you fall asleep more easily.

13. Find Hidden Meditation Time

Utilize small, often overlooked pockets of time for meditation, such as the minute or two after putting children to bed, or by using strategies like locking yourself in the bathroom or using noise-canceling headphones early in the morning.

14. Face Difficult Emotions Wisely

Instead of letting difficult emotions or past traumas drive you blindly, use meditation to bring them into conscious awareness and investigate them non-judgmentally, allowing you to respond wisely rather than react impulsively.

15. Employ Holistic Well-being Strategies

Supplement meditation with other well-being practices such as seeking professional therapy, taking prescribed medication, prioritizing sleep, exercising, eating well, maintaining social connections, and helping others.

16. Cultivate Compassion and Helpfulness

Tap into your innate capacity to care for others and yourself, defining love as ’the capacity to give a shit’ and compassion as empathy combined with a desire to help, which can elevate you from self-obsession.

17. Actively Support Others and Community

Actively demonstrate compassion by checking in on elderly neighbors, supporting those you live with, and contributing to your community, such as by supporting local businesses.

18. Be a Calming Influence

Understand that your personal meditation practice can make you a calmer presence, and this calm can be contagious, positively influencing the atmosphere for those around you without needing to force them to meditate.

19. Perform a One-Minute Breath Meditation

Find a comfortable seat, close your eyes, and take three long, deep breaths, filling your belly each time. Then, allow your breath to return to normal and gently follow its sensations in your body, non-judgmentally returning your focus to it whenever your mind wanders.

20. Quit Drugs & Seek Therapy

If struggling with drug use, quit doing drugs and seek professional help from a doctor or therapist regularly, as it can be crucial for addressing underlying issues and brain chemistry changes.

21. Insight 21

When confused or fearful, seek answers in evidence-based science as it is presented as the best approach.