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Beat Your Isolation Loneliness

Mar 16, 2020 22m 21s 12 insights
<p>Many of us are being advised to stay at home and avoid social contact to help slow the spread of the coronavirus. Human interaction is a vital component of happiness, so Dr Laurie Santos asks Stanford's Professor Jamil Zaki to explain his research into how we can maintain meaningful links to our loved ones, friends and colleagues even if we can't be in the same room with them.</p><p>If you have a question you want answered on a future coronavirus bonus episode then tweet @lauriesantos or @pushkinpods using #happinesslabpod</p><p> </p> Learn more about your ad-choices at <a href="https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com">https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com</a><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Reframe Social Distancing

Remember that social distancing is an act of kindness and protection for vulnerable individuals, transforming a solitary action into a shared community effort.

2. Acknowledge Shared Experience

Recognize that many people are experiencing similar feelings of confusion, fear, and loneliness during this time, which can cultivate more social connection by fostering a sense of shared reality.

3. Use Tech for Connection

Intentionally use technology to build social connections by replicating in-person interactions, rather than letting it contribute to feelings of isolation or anxiety.

4. Replicate In-Person Interactions

Use video calls and other technologies to mimic the casual, informal ‘hanging out’ that occurs in person, beyond just formal check-ins, to strengthen bonds.

5. Engage in Shared Online Activities

Actively ‘do nothing together’ online, such as watching a TV show, making the same meal, or drinking wine simultaneously over video calls, to foster a sense of togetherness.

6. Create Virtual Hangout Spaces

Establish dedicated online channels, like a ‘Zoom coffee room,’ for informal breaks and casual social interaction, mirroring physical communal spaces.

7. Facilitate Kids’ Online Playdates

Organize co-activities for children via video calls, such as buying the same coloring books or games to do together, to support their social development during isolation.

8. Lower Online Interaction Expectations

Embrace casualness and informality in online interactions, understanding that conversations don’t always need to be ‘scintillating’ to be meaningful, just like in real life.

9. Be Inclusive in Digital Outreach

Actively involve vulnerable populations, such as older adults who may not be digital natives, in online interactions to combat their increased susceptibility to isolation.

10. Comfort Others, Comfort Self

Offer comfort and support to others, as this act can help you locate a strength and calm within yourself, making it one of the best ways to be comforted.

11. Avoid Panic Scrolling

Refrain from excessive scrolling through social media feeds, as it often leads to an overload of anxiety-provoking information and increases distress.

12. Seek Science-Backed Answers

When feeling confused or fearful, prioritize looking for answers in evidence-based science as the best approach to find clarity and reduce anxiety.