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Your Craving Mind | Kevin Griffin

Feb 22, 2021 1h 1m 16 insights
This is an episode about our craving, grasping minds. Whether you have struggled with a classic addiction or not, we all have addictive tendencies; we all wrestle with desire. I often think about a provocative question once posed by my friend, Dr. Jud Brewer, a Buddhist practitioner and addiction specialist: Are we all addicted? The implied answer is yes.    My guest today thinks about addiction in a similarly broad and compelling way. He talks about addictions to substances like drugs and alcohol, but also addiction to self and addiction to racism. Kevin Griffin is a longtime Buddhist practitioner and 12 Step participant, and is one of the founders of the Buddhist Recovery Network. He has trained with many of the legendary teachers we have interviewed on this show, including Jack Kornfield and Joseph Goldstein. He has written many books, including One Breath at a Time: Buddhism & the Twelve Steps. His latest is Buddhism & the Twelve Steps: Daily Reflections: Thoughts on Dharma and Recovery.   This is the first in a two part series we're doing this week on addiction. During the pandemic, we've seen alcohol use go up and drug overdose deaths rise. On Wednesday, we're going to talk to a woman named Annie Grace, who has come up with what she believes is a powerful alternative to AA. But today, it's Kevin Griffin. We cover a lot of ground here, including: How he connects the dharma to the 12 Steps, and a Buddhist list called the three refuges. But we start with what he calls the foundational addiction: addiction to the self.   Podcast Survey - We would appreciate it if you could take a few minutes to help us out by answering a brand-new survey about your experience with this podcast. We want to hear about your experience with our show, because we care deeply, and we are always looking for ways to improve. Please go to https://www.tenpercent.com/survey. Thank you!   Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/kevin-griffin-324
Actionable Insights

1. Practice Vigilance & Self-Compassion

Engage in persistent vigilance in daily life and meditation by understanding the problem of constant thoughts and setting an intention to act differently. Use meditation to observe thought streams, recognize suffering from uncontrolled thoughts and craving, and experience the release of letting go, which can be recreated by interrupting addictive patterns and applying self-compassion; for intractable patterns, accept them and engage in self-care.

2. Daily Refuge in Dharma

Take refuge daily in the Buddha (teacher), Dharma (teachings/truth), and Sangha (community) to ground yourself in spiritual principles and remember what is truly important amidst impermanence. This practice serves as a reminder of life’s preciousness and helps manage the ‘addiction to self’ by bringing one back to truth.

3. Integrate 12 Steps, Dharma

Merge 12-step principles with Buddhist practice by acknowledging powerlessness over the mind and body, identifying mindfulness or Dharma as a higher power, and turning your will over to love or mindfulness through trust and acceptance. Conduct a moral inventory to investigate past harms and present mental patterns, and commit to service after a spiritual awakening, practicing mindfulness in all affairs.

4. Cultivate Right Effort

Practice ‘right effort’ in meditation by being aware of thoughts and sensations without striving to change them, recognizing that excessive effort creates agitation and is counterproductive. Instead, patiently allow things to be as they are, and strategically know when to ‘sit back’ rather than beating yourself up for spacing out.

5. Address Biases & Self-Image

Confront biases (e.g., racism, sexism) by acknowledging their presence, which can be painful and threaten your self-image as a ‘good person.’ Engage in an ongoing ‘inventory process’ of self-exploration to heal and overcome these conditioned patterns, recognizing that facing these ‘demons’ is ultimately freeing and less threatening than repressing them.

6. Check In Before Meditation

Before beginning a meditation session, check in with your current mental and emotional state (e.g., relaxed, agitated, sleepy, depressed) to set realistic expectations and practice self-compassion. This helps avoid unrealistic expectations and self-criticism during the sit.

7. Meditation for Stress Relief

Use meditation to find calming relief, especially during stressful times. Be patient, as it may take 20-30 minutes for the mind to settle and for a sense of ‘cooling’ and normalcy to arise, offering a relief similar to that sought from external sources.

8. Acknowledge Personal Powerlessness

Recognize and accept powerlessness over addictive substances, thoughts, and even the body, understanding that this acceptance doesn’t mean succumbing but rather changing one’s relationship to these things. This is a foundational step in recovery.

9. Identify Higher Power

Identify mindfulness, loving kindness, or the Dharma itself as a ‘higher power’ that can restore sanity, using meditation to calm a chaotic mind daily. This offers an alternative for those who struggle with traditional religious language.

10. Turn Will Over to Care

Practice turning your will and life over to the care of love or mindfulness, viewing this as a process of trust, letting go, and acceptance in your spiritual journey.

11. Conduct Moral Inventory

Conduct a searching and fearless moral inventory, investigating past harms and present mental patterns that cause harm, then share it, let go of negative findings, and make amends. This aligns with the Dharma’s emphasis on investigation and letting go.

12. Practice Daily Meditation

Incorporate meditation into your daily routine as a direct practice for spiritual growth and self-awareness, as it is a core component of the 12 steps.

13. Service After Awakening

After experiencing a spiritual awakening, commit to carrying the message of recovery and practicing its principles (or mindfulness) in all aspects of life, spontaneously engaging in service to others. This provides purpose and reinforces growth.

14. Vigilance Against Complacency

Remain vigilant against complacency in recovery, recognizing that the desire for past addictive behaviors can resurface. Actively maintain awareness to prevent relapse.

15. Explore Diverse Recovery

Be open to diverse recovery approaches, as different methods work for different individuals and not everyone needs the same intensity or tools.

16. Advanced: Sit and Wait

For experienced meditators, consider a ‘sit and wait’ approach, focusing on stillness and quiet rather than specific techniques, as the true work of meditation may arise from prolonged quietude. This involves being aware of the ‘big picture’ (body, sound, mind, mood) and holding it as an open space, potentially letting go of intense efforting.