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You Don't Exist. But You Actually Do. Wait, What? | Guy Armstrong

Aug 3, 2020 52m 33s 18 insights
In this episode, we take a simple, useful, and down-to-earth stroll through one of the most confounding -- but liberating -- concepts in Buddhism. On the one hand, Buddhists tell us the self is an illusion: "You don't exist!" On the other hand, they tell us, "Well actually, on some level, you do, of course, exist." So which is it? The answer is: both. But this concept -- call it not-self, selflessness, egolessness, or emptiness -- doesn't have to be some hopelessly esoteric riddle; it is actually a game-changer that we can all apply in our own lives. Here to tell us how is Guy Armstrong, who has been a meditation teacher in the insight tradition for decades. He's written a book called Emptiness: A Practical Guide for Meditators. He is the husband of Sally Armstrong, who appeared on the show just a few weeks ago. I actually conducted the interviews back-to-back last fall. But even though this was recorded before the wretched events of 2020, the concepts herein are, I assure you, perennially useful. Where to find Guy Armstrong online:  Website: https://www.spiritrock.org/guy-armstrong  Book: Emptiness: A Practical Guide for Meditators - https://bookshop.org/books/emptiness-a-practical-guide-for-meditators/9781614295266 You can always get started with the Ten Percent Happier app with our flagship course, The Basics. In The Basics, Joseph Goldstein and Dan Harris discuss the fundamentals of mediation and dispel common myths about meditation in a seven-day meditation series. Visit https://10percenthappier.app.link/TheBasicsPod to get started. Other Resources Mentioned: Compassion and Emptiness in Early Buddhist Meditation by Bhikkhu Anālayo - https://bookshop.org/books/compassion-and-emptiness-in-early-buddhist-meditation/9781909314559 Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/guy-armstrong-270
Actionable Insights

1. Inquire “Not-Self” Experientially

Practice a Zogchen-inspired meditation by listening to all sounds and body sensations, then asking “what’s knowing these sounds?” and “who’s asking this question?” This experiential inquiry helps to dissolve the conceptual line between “inside” and “outside” by revealing that both arise in the same open space of awareness.

2. Question Self-Centered Thinking

When your attention wanders from the breath during meditation, observe where it goes (typically into “self stuff” like past regrets or future fears). Then, pose the inquiry “why is the mind going away at all?” to undercut the motive for self-centered thinking and return to a more open mental space.

3. Recognize Thoughts as Not Reality

During quiet meditation, observe thoughts about the past or future and realize they are merely thoughts, not the actual past or future. This understanding helps to see their invalidity and unnecessary nature, allowing you to let go of “the movie of I” and settle into present moment contentment.

4. Observe Sense of Self’s Strength

Pay attention to when your sense of self is strong and insistent (e.g., when insulted, angry, or intensely wanting something) versus when it is weak or less noticeable (e.g., while enjoying a beautiful beach or mountain landscape). This practice helps to discern the fluctuating nature of the self-sense.

5. Recondition Mind from Harmful Habits

Actively work to decondition the mind away from old, ingrained habits that are harmful to yourself and others. This process allows the forces of wisdom and compassion to increasingly guide your volition, leading to more skillful and wholesome decisions.

6. Practice Mindfulness of Breath

Stay mindful of the breath coming in and going out, moment after moment, to cultivate tranquility and serenity. This fundamental practice in insight meditation aims to bring greater calm to both mind and body.

7. Simplify Perception in Meditation

During meditation, simplify complex perceptions of your immediate environment by focusing on the empty space in a room rather than individual objects. This technique helps to settle the mind by reducing the associations that tend to stir it up.

8. Embrace Surrender and Acceptance

When encountering the momentary, arising-and-passing nature of all experience, surrender and accept this reality rather than fighting it. This acceptance, even if initially unsettling, leads to profound peace.

9. Seek Extended Retreat Practice

For deeper, transformative insights into emptiness and not-self, consider engaging in extended meditation retreats. While some may achieve this in daily practice, these profound realizations often occur in the concentrated environment of a retreat.

10. Consult a Meditation Teacher

When experiencing fear, doubt, or a loss of meaning during deep meditative insights, seek guidance from a meditation teacher. Their reassurance that “this is normal, just keep going” is crucial for persisting through challenging phases of practice.

11. Practice Affectionate Self-Care

Look upon your body, mind, and heart with affection and care, taking care with food, exercise, and medicine. Frame this self-care not just for personal welfare, but as a way to continue being able to offer service to other people.

12. Manage Responsibilities Without Obsession

While it’s necessary to look after your life, family, and job, strive to do so without obsessing about them. Letting go of the strong sense of self helps reduce this obsessive tendency, allowing for more mental settling.

13. Explore “The Basics” Course

If you’re interested in booting up or rebooting a meditation practice, check out “The Basics” flagship course on the 10% Happier app. It discusses meditation fundamentals, dispels myths, and includes a seven-day meditation series.

14. Try 10% with Dan Harris App

Download the “10% with Dan Harris” app for a library of guided meditations to help with stress, anxiety, sleep, and focus, along with access to weekly live Zoom community sessions and ad-free podcast episodes.

15. Read Guy Armstrong’s “Emptiness”

For a practical guide to understanding and applying the concept of emptiness in meditation, read Guy Armstrong’s book, “Emptiness, A Practical Guide for Meditators,” available in Kindle, softcover, and hardcover formats.

16. Listen to Guy Armstrong’s Talks

Access hundreds of Guy Armstrong’s Dharma talks on dharmaseed.org, a service that records talks from meditation centers like the Insight Meditation Society and Spirit Rock, to deepen your understanding of Buddhist teachings.

17. Consider BCBS Online Courses

Explore online courses offered by the Barry Center for Buddhist Studies (BCBS) for conceptual breakthroughs and deeper learning in Buddhist philosophy, as recommended for gaining insights into complex topics like emptiness.

18. Read Biccu Inalio’s Book

For a long exposition of the discourse related to “abiding in emptiness,” read Biccu Inalio’s book, “Compassion and Emptiness,” which delves into one of the middle-length discourses of the Buddha.