Define your meaningful mission in a single sentence, ensuring it’s not solely about personal gain but also includes serving and impacting others, as this provides deeper purpose and drive for a ‘greatness mindset’.
Explore various healing modalities to address original emotional wounds, allowing you to interpret events differently, create new meaning from past memories, and respond consciously instead of reactively. This includes cultivating full love, acceptance, and forgiveness for all past memories up to the present.
Create a ‘fear list’ by identifying all your fears and systematically ‘knocking them off’ by facing them directly, starting with the scariest ones, to build confidence and progressively become ‘fearless.’ Tackle significant fears by immersing yourself in them consistently, working with coaches, and practicing continuously.
Embark on a journey of meditation, consciousness, and self-reflection to find inner peace amidst stress, practicing frequently even for short durations like five minutes a day. Stop abandoning yourself in intimate relationships by people-pleasing; instead, cultivate inner peace (‘be peace’) rather than trying to buy it.
Counter self-criticism by creating a written and signed ‘contract’ with yourself, defining a healthy identity (e.g., ‘I am a loving, passionate, wise man’) and affirming it whenever old self-criticism arises to build a healthier identity.
View self-improvement practices like meditation and coaching as continuous, similar to exercise; don’t stop once you feel good, or you risk losing progress, as freedom requires constant effort and application.
Hire an emotional coach or other professional support to guide you through healing processes and continuous improvement, even when things are going well, as enlisting support is crucial for growth.
Be very clear on your intentions, have a deeper meaning for why you want something (beyond superficial reasons), and then take massive, consistent action to create it. Develop effective communication, congruence with your mission, and emotional intelligence to manifest goals faster.
Uncondition yourself from past training (e.g., ‘rub dirt on the wound,’ ‘don’t show pain’) that may lead to success but drains inner harmony, peace, and fulfillment, to achieve a more sustainable and fulfilling way of being.
Prioritize service and mission first, celebrating personal successes as byproducts and using them to amplify the mission rather than as ends in themselves, and quickly return focus to service. Stay humble and grateful, as life will provide humbling experiences if you become too caught up in ego or success.
Learn from the pain and suffering of others to gain clarity and avoid paths that lead to similar negative outcomes, using their experiences for your benefit and to make different choices.
Share past pains, traumas, and shames with trusted individuals (intimately, spiritual guide, friend, spouse, family member) to liberate yourself from their power and avoid being defined by others’ opinions.
Define your current life season (e.g., exploring, resting, stuck) and clarify your meaningful mission within that specific season, understanding that action plans can adapt to your current phase of life.
Reflect on the impermanence of life and the proximity of death to fuel passionate action towards creating something in the world, making something, and helping others, fostering a sense of urgency.
Be a voracious learner, relentless in pursuit of your interests, and ‘do the work’ to get to the bottom of things in your own life, becoming a true student by interviewing and learning from people who have excelled.
Develop a clear game plan and take action aligned with your mission, understanding that action doesn’t always mean extreme hustling but adapting to life’s seasons and being clear on the mission.